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Maintenance

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wirral · 04/06/2010 17:05

My ex pays me monthly for our daughter based on his last year's P60 as he is a shift worker and can work lots of overtime etc therefore his earnings fluctuate. This was set via court order

This year (P60) time he has said that he will now be paying on a monthly basis based on his previous month's salary.

This leaves me a bit stuck as won't have a regular amount guaranteed.

I'm not sure - worth the row or not??

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ChocHobNob · 04/06/2010 17:23

The only other alternative is the CSA route, isn't it (if he decides to deviate away from the court order, if over a year has passed since it was made)?

That way, they would base it on an average of the last 3 months payslips (which he can then ensure he does little or no overtime during).

It's up to you whether you think it's worth it.

I can see it from his point of view and understand how it can be difficult to pay something based on earnings from a year ago as your pay can vary a lot.

But also see it from your point of view. The only problem with having a "regular amount guaranteed" is that it never really is that with maintenance. He could take a pay cut or lose his job at any time.

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wirral · 04/06/2010 17:38

The other problem is that I only have his word for the amount. I used to see his annual P60 so could verify the amount. I am not sure that I trust his word!

This change of routine coincides with his girlfriend and her daughter moving in with him.

That said, I could just leave it and worry if the amount differs dramatically from his previous payments.

Thanks - sometimes best to talk it through before reacting! No love lost between me and ex and I suspect this is just a "control" issue

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ChocHobNob · 04/06/2010 18:34

If it went to the CSA, he would actually get a reduction due to the step-child moving in with him.

Sounds like a good idea to wait and see what happens after the first month and then look at it again. Hope he doesn't mess about too much.

fifi121 · 08/06/2010 00:03

hi i'm new to this is anyone having trouble with maintance payments from ex partners.

Bongobaby · 10/06/2010 13:09

yes yes yes, and if you think the csa will help.then dont bother making the call. try and appeal to your exes better nature.if hes fair than it shouldnt be a problem. if not then be prepared for a long drawn out fustrating time of endless phone calls to the csa. good luck

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