My X is currently abroad due to a death in his family. As it was a long drawn out illness and a very elderly person, the death was not unexpected. The funeral has been and no other arrangements have to be made. 4 other siblings are with his mother.
X now keeps changing the dates when he will be back, meaning I have a very upset, confused 2 year old who does not understand why daddy won't come back and keeps pointing at his photograph. It is leaving me high and dry as well as I have a medical appointment for which I have been on the waiting lists for months.
There is absolutely no need for him to stay there any longer, apart from the fact he simply wants to and has always put his family's needs above mine or his daughter's. I am so angry with him for changing the dates, then saying I am lying, got it wrong, then turning abusive and saying I should be understanding and have symphathy for him.
I do have sympathy for him but I think his little girl should come first, I have been EXTREMELY understanding with him not meeting his childcare arrangements and more but I am running out of patience. His family behaved in an absolute vile manner when I had just given birth to little one so perhaps that is why I am very sensitive of putting his own needs above little one's needs.
Am I unreasonable for him expecting to be back on the date he said he would be back and that is now marked on the calendar for little one so she is counting off the days. Once again, it has been left to me to pick up the pieces.