We moved into a rented house on the 1st may, have 6 month contract. Wont go into why and how we broke up just now! but anyway, it's permanent.
He doesn't want this house, but neither do I, I think? It has 3 bedrooms, £695 per month. We have 2 children, preschoolers, so I am entitled to 2 bedroom house (about £540 per month round here). We went for a 3 bed because the ex-dps older kids stay at weekends.
The house is in his home town....there is another town about 5 miles away that I was living in when we met, it has a university there, which I wanted to go to in September to finish my degree (only half a year to do, didn't finish before due to pregnancy). We have just moved back here from my home town, where we lived for a year, I had all my family around me etc.
So, on paper it looks really obvious that I should move to the university town, finish degree then decide whether to stay or move on somewhere else, but my mum is guarantor for this house. It's a beautiful house, but far to bug for the 3 of us. I think maybe I'm still feeling intimidated and trying to keep the peace by letting him get what he wants.
Sorry for that ramble, just need outsider's perspective, as still in house together and difficult to think clearly about what really is fair!
What do I do about tax credits etc?
What I'm most worried about is being stuck in a house I can't afford, getting massively into debt, not being able to move (no deposit etc), not being able to finish my degreee, then never being able to provide for my family....
Phew! I spose I'm quite normal really.
If anybody can offer me the benefit of their experience I would be soooo grateful!
Who do i need to tell and in what order? How long will benefits etc take? am I going to need to rely on ex-dp for money whilst they are processed? How can I afford to move?
Thanks in advance!