Book advice for single dad

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My dh has decided after 15 yrs of marriage to leave me and ds 2.75 yrs. We are three weeks in ( see other posts) and I am swinging wildly from coping to staring into the abyss and seeing absolutely no future, idea where I am going.

The family friend who he has run off with, told him I got pregnant deliberately to trap him and this has destroyed the absolutely beautiful relationship he had with ds. He adored/s him but he needs to see the truth before he can go forward again.

He is spending time with him but if he does not obey immediately,spilt some drink on the floor (an accident) whines etc he is ott on the discipline. The fun has gone from there relationship. He seems to forget he is not an adult and compares him to the other womans child who is 3.5yrs and a girl.

I want to get a book for him on bringing up his beautiful son. I want him to regain the fun he had but I realise I can not control that, but he does need to understand a childs developmental stages and what is unreasonable to expect.

I am so sad for him and DS at the moment that she has currently managed to ruin the most precious relationship between a father and son for her own gain. I am sure it will return but it hurts to see them struggling.

Just wanted to say I feel for you and your DS in this sad situation.

Is your dh the sort of person who would generally read books on childcare and child development? It's just that if he's not he's unlikely to read one now and would probably take it as criticism and might even makes things worse.

It sounds like you are present when your DS and DH get together - perhaps you could let be alone if that is possible so they can both gain confidence in the new way of life.

Three weeks is very soon - i'm sure you are all struggling and things will get better (and he will start to see his GF and her DD in a more realistic light).

Thanks - I am not around all the time.

With the wonderful hindsight - I had noticed his relationship changing over the past few months but had put it down to a number of major traumatic events that had happened in his life last year. I now know better.

This is not to say they are having a bad time but when ds says daddy tells me off all the time -I know where he is coming from.

We have always been cohesive on setting boundaries and what constitutes bad behaviour but some of this is unreasonable expectations of a toddler.