Ok ladies what would you do now?

[Elloeise]

I posted a few days ago asking advice as to weather i should let my ex have contact with DS.

I listened to your wise wisdom and did get in contact with him and asked if hed like to met me 1 on 1 to discuss things and try and set up some ground rules for us both and some days.

As i had to find childcare for DS in order for us to do this i said i would ring him back when i knew when.

I did call him when i said i would (on mobile) and after it rang 3 times he switched the phone off and it has either been off or ignored ever since.

So what do i do now???

I feel like saying up your's then you ovisely wernt that bothered but on the other hand feel like i should try for a few more days.

What would you do?

send a text...ring again,leave an answerphone message,then a final text to say ball is in his court

if he's behaving like this now,then he'll likely be the same over contact,leaving you with a bewildered and disapointed child

I think that you have done your best and your duty is to your son not him.

Better he never sees dad than is constantly let down by him sometimes being there, sometimes not.

Thank you i guess i was just so shocked that after asking for acess his bailed out even before Ds has been interduced to him.

(they have met but DS dosent know hes his dad as i didnt like to tell him when i knew he wouldnt see him again)

Keep a record of all the times you have called him and all the texts you sent. That way if he goes to court you can show you made attempts to contact him.

Do you have an address? I'd send a letter - you never know, he could have left his phone somewhere, it could even have been nicked.

Just keep a copy of the letter.

Send it signed for, and don;t hand-write the envelope, then you'll have an 'official' record that he received it, not just that you sent it!