have been gradully allowing some unsupervised contact - ds is 13 autistic, no speech, likes to run away - a month ago he escaped from exP's flat and i have been refusing to send him there wihtout another adult as exP refusing to fit extra security chains..anyway sunday he had ds in the morning one on one while dds were at a brownies event, so that was ok.
hot hot - so exP texted to ask for costume to take all to paddling pool after the borwnies thing. - i asked who else was going -no one- so is said "leave ds with me, just take dds, it is impossible to take all 3 together alone"
he replies "no it is my contact time i will do it" - he took them in car, getting dd to text me "please come with us" (i texted back no sorri i busy.."
to cut long story short, exP apparently went off to put something in his bag telling dd (10) to "keep an eye on ds" (this is nuts - the way you do it is you take ds with you and tell dds to stay put - they understand; he does not!) - so ds ran off from pool barefoot and was found long way down street by police.,[he was heading towards friends house) he has massive blisters on soles of feet...
exP's response to my email asking "what exactly happened on sunday?"
"we asked you to come with us and you refused to do so".
ugh he is soo manipulative - nothing is his responsibility... i cannot be expected to go along on "family" outings with someone who even just recently was agressive and bullying to me in so-called mediation session.
anyway = for now i wont let ds go with him except supervised (ie as per court order). ss involved and in agreement... ds does not understand why he couldnt go to see dad ystrday.
why does he think i should go with him?