What should I do? Advice please....

[katiep16]

My ex and I have open custody. Ds x 2, (aged 13 and 4) live with me during week and see ex for one day at weekend, stay over every other weekend. We divorced because of his unreasonable behaviour. Drink and drug issues amongst other problems! He wants to take both boys camping at weekend with other male dad and son. Have serious concerns about his ability to cope and look after youngest son, whilst remaining sober. How do I stop him without him kicking off? What would you do?

I would be inclined to say no and deal with the fall out, if there is any....not worth the risk imo

If you are only concerned about the eldest, why not 'suggest' that he take the eldest only as it will be easier 'for him'. Remind him how hard it would be with a 4 yr old and that it would be a good opportunity to spend some quality time with the eldest.

Might be better to approach it like that rather than say no outright first. Why start a big row if a little bit of spin would work better?

I am concerned about them both being with him but think eldest is more able to cope and can ring me if anything goes wrong. I would rather neither of them go! Can't understand why all of a sudden he is willing to take them to things yet when he lived with us he couldn't be bothered!

Can't be that much more dangerous than staying with him at the weekends, can it? How do the boys feel about it?

if they already stay over with him then you cant really stop the camping can you?