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poopeeplops · 23/05/2010 03:44

hi i just need some direction please.........i had a stressful pregnancy wiv the ex and he wasnt ready so i agreed to go it alone but he cudnt let go nd hassled me thruout and he never supported me and turned up to anything , towards the end he got aggressive and said very nasty things which caused me to move away as i feared him after that. He then tried to threaten me and then tried the nice approach, i tried the whole pregnancy to involve him despite spending the best part of every single day trying to understand what i had done that made me deserve this treatment. I had a alot of issues and they wer down to stress and now baby is here he says he wants to meet baby so after 3mths of thinkin none stop i AGAIN made the effort to get him to see him and he denied going to a contact centre as he didnt want anyone knowing his business. I then drove 200miles to him and he was an hour late to meet us and didnt really utilise the time.

Ive come away feeling good in some respect but have a whole load of new other feelings now that its suddenly hit home that IM ALONE, wer do i go from here, ive spent so long holding onto those feelings and awaiting that moment wer he meets his dad and of the pregnancy and now i feel i have some closure but am now left feeling really lost and am no nearer to knowing what the future holds, i really need someone to help me make sense of this, Im so confused now and am right back to feeling like i did before trying to work out my situation!! i hate that he doesnt want me despite me not wanting him, i hate that he doesnt care enough to fight for lil man, i miss him but the old him, so long i waited and held onto those feelings and now its done wer do i go from here? its very scary and reality has punched me right in the ovaries. Any help will do

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monika11 · 23/05/2010 08:58

now he is gone problem has gone.
what you have to do from now on is to concentrate on yourself and your baby, dont think about him anymore.
its allright to be feeling confused, scared at this stage, you are like at a turning point.
dont get scared, dont scare yourself, just focus on your future, there are many single parents who had done it.
you'll do better without him, believe me.
the old good him is just like a lie, you saw his real colors.
if you feel you can't manage you can go to your gp and get some help like counselling etc.

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