I am, as of 10 minutes ago, a lone parent.

[anotheronebites]

Almost 12 years to the day that husband asked me to marry him.

Tonight it seems we've finally made the break. I left our bed and am up in the attic. At least I won't have to listen to him snore! Before going upstairs, I took off my wedding ring & tossed it to him - "maybe you can get something for this" I said.

I hurt. I feel sick and frightened. We have two dcs with SN but I've been miserable in this marriage for over two years now.

I'm in my mid-40s & have no job. I haven't been able to work since I became pg with ds, almost 8 years ago, The qualifications I have are no longer relevant.

I need a hand to hold (at least one!) to guide me through this. Is there anybody out there?

Oh God ! I will hold your hand xx I am no use but I will hold your hand xx

Might it just be a row?

What caused it to blow up tonight?

I don't think so. We've had so many!

Hello anotherone - you are very brave Well done.

What do you want to talk about - what happened tonight? What practical things you need to sort? Or something else?

maybe a trial separation?

but i'm a lone parent,and am happy this way....no walking on eggshells,no worrying about a tidy or untidy house......its not such a bad life!

Are you still there, anotheronebites? Are you okay?

RIght now, get yourself a warm drink, have a bath and go to bed. In the morning, it's time to get some practical/legal/financial advice about what benefits you are entitled to, what happens about the house/maintenance etc. Even if this is just an extra-bad spat, knowledge is power, knowing what will happen and what you are entitled to will help you decide what you want to do eg work on the relationship or end it.
Best of luck.

Hope you got some sleep anotheronebites, there is lots of support on here if you need it.

hope you managed to get some sleep another one (((((())))))))