My husband walked out on me after 10 years, leaving me with a 3 week old, an 18 month old and a 3.5 year old. This was 10 weeks ago. The children have been obviously very upset and unsettled and have by no means adjusted yet. Despite how I feel about him, I have never come between him and the children, in fact I offer him lots of contacts he turns down, as I feel it is in the best interest of the children. He has always denied there was someone else. I have always suspected there was. After my children's last visit to his new flat last weekend, they came back talking about daddy's friend 'laura'. I was furious that he would introduce a new girlfriend without consulting me first. He can do what he likes, but I don't think the children are ready for that yet, they're still so confused, however as I only had the word of my two little ones to go on I thought 'laura' could also be a figment of there over active imaginations. However, they've just comeback talking about 'laura' again. I didn't ask, they volunteered the information. I'm furious at him for not thinking about what they are able to deal with, and for not telling me so I could give them the right kind of support in adjusting, it's like he's too big a coward to tell me himself so he's using his children to do his dirty work. I don't think she should be there when the children are there, not yet anyway. Like I said he's free to have a girlfriend (good luck to her), I just think he needs to be thinking about how this effects his children. Do you think I would be unreasonable to insist that she's not there when they are until they're more settled? How has anyone else handled this situation? Your advice would be very much appreciated.