EH moved out at the beginning of March, and moved straight into another relationshipbut that doesnt bother me, our relationship was over a long time ago. What does bother me, is that since he moved out, (he has son 1 day during week and one overnight stay every other weekend (so 6 visits a month on average)) he has been late picking son up twice, late dropping him home twice, didnt turn up at all once and effectively "dumped" his arrangements to see son on 2 occasions to see new partner instead.(We made a seperation agreement a long time ago that said any new partners need to be on the scene for 3 months before they can be introduced to child). He has a child from a previous relationship and would never dream of messing that ex around - mainly because she has been a b*tch from hell many a time.
My question is, does anyone have any suggestions for how I can make it clear to ex that if he makes arrangements I expect him to be there on time and as he promises without turning in to b*tch from hell mode and keeping it as amicable, which for the most part we are managing.
He has always been so good at dealing with the other child that it never occurred to me when we wrote the seperation agreement that I would need a "what happens if this fails" type scenario.
But now I suspect that his ability to be on time etc was actually just me making sure he left on time, chased for contact dates/times etc.
He is very laid back so doesn't usually give a damn about things - most of the time won't even say sorry - and usually blames me (e.g. latest one was, he was late bringing son home, but it's my fault because I should have picked him up from the train station, even though he'd told me they were getting a bus!).
Any suggestions gratefully received, just want to make it clear to him that I want to be treated with some common decency and respect, I do have my own life, and its me that has to pick up the pieces when he lets son down (he is still in its all new, gets excited when its a Daddy day mode)