XP 'forgot' to pick DS up from nursery!!

[Janos]

I am deliberately not putting this in AIBU although it's kind of an AIBU. But anyway.

Last night, XP FORGOT, yes FORGOT to pick DS up from nursery. I was called up at five past six and asked, er, was it my turn to collect DS because the nursery just called me and can you get him? He doesn't live close by).

I'm afraid (not sorry) that I lost my temper and had a real go.

Anyway he came to mine and picked up DS who was thrilled to see Dad and is now with him until tomorrow.

In fairness (although I don't bloody feel like being fair) this is out of character and I know there are parents here who deal with worse but this really upset me.

I will be having serious words about this with XP but need to do it when I'm calmer. How should I approach this? And am I over-reacting?

I don't think there's a lot more you need to say this once if you've already lost your temper with him.

Hmmm, you may be right paisleyleaf. Think I am more upset that DS was.

If it was out of character, and you've already had words, I think you need to let this go. It was an accident and no harm was done.

The only way I would be bringing this up again would be as a joke, but it doesn't sound like you're quite there yet

I don't know what your arrangements are, but things that happen every second week are notorious for people forgetting which week it is.

in the interests of maintaining a good relationship with XP and if its a one off and he's, as your suggesting, normally reliable I would leave, especially if I'd already had a go.

if he's a reasonable dad, he's probably already feeling bad himself and won't need reminding.

Yes, think I am being a bit 'mummy tiger' about it.

He normally picks up DS every Friday though which is why I don't understand it. However, I do agree it is unlikely he will do it again and I think he was genuinely sorry and feels bad about it.

And of course DS is ok which is the main thing.

I agree, if its a one off then it happens. I've forgotten several times to pick DS up from school.