anyone's ex see their dc once a month

[ninah]

and is it worth it? my dc are 4 and 7 and my ex tells me he is going reduce contact from once a fortnight to once a month due to other family commitments
we are an approx 2.5 hour drive away

this will be once a month for 6 hours
I feel your pain kerry
and I feel like telling mine to stick it where the sun doesn't shine
but of course I can't
cos then it would be my fault
aaaargh

well mine see's his dd for about an hour and a half once a fortnight - she doesn't like seeing him as he always puts his step family first and this has grated over the years so that she now goes just for this short time..

They will see through him in the end and not bother me thinks so let it happen till it dwindles out

they see through him already, last time he was an hour late because he had 'run out of petrol' and ds said oh well he keeps two full tanks in his boot
but they still look forward to seeing him and get so excited
I hate them being let down
I haven't told them yet it will be once a month
you are right it will dwindle out I can't bear to put them through all the let downs, I am so tempted to just stop it now and accept they only have a father in name

No - you havn't let them down you are living with them and bringin themup -that in no way is letting them down

Let them see there father and let him explian - if the chidlren ask, get them to aks thee father "say oh I don't know its a bit of an inconveince for me but ask your father why"

Don't protect them from him in let downs - let them sort out what they want - not you as it iwll then be you that stopped them going when they are older.

thanks ivykaty
i know, I've just got to put up with it and when I've calmed down a bit i will
Maybe I can get someone else to do the drop off as I don't think I could bear to look at him
it's just so shit we have so little power in the equation, I bring up his dc adn all he does is buy them an occasional lunch
and now that's too much
yet seeing him is the highlight of their Easter hols

have calmed down a bit now
and resigned myself to the inevitable
they other thing is they don't really have a male role model in their lives to compensate
ah well
I better gird myself up for non stop childcare with 30hrs off a year then lol

my exh only sees my dd once every 6-8 months depending on his mood he only lives 2miles away from us as for his work place a stone throw away from dds school i tried to encourage regular contact but i was told i have a new life with my new wife` whom he left us for we dont care any more we have got used to it