so what did you do with your wedding photos?

[sez2068]

hi, well, been separated from xh for 2 years now. was sorting out photos in the loft and came acros all teh old love letters and cards and worst of all the wedding albums -

well i chucked out the cards etc and actually had a little bonfire in the garden with some of it

but those photos haunt me! in the end i put them in a box and stuck them back in the loft - well there are so many pics of family and friends. and kids may want to see them one day? i mean i cant pretend it never happened worst luck

but just wondered - what do others do? did you keep them? throw them? burn them?!

Sez2068 - I think the fact that you got rid of the cards and burned them sounds like you are moving on. It may not be until you met someone who makes you feel special that you realise how far you've come. And also eventually you'll feel relived you aren't in a relationship with him anymore! My Dad took time but in his new marriage realises just how bad and unhealthy his marriage was to my mum.

my ex 'stole' all our wedding photos when he left the marital home - along with the gold his family had given me (wasn't much but was mine ...), a lot of my paperwork ... and the deeds to my flat!

Can't say I'm bothered about the wedding pics other than would have been something to show the kids - particularly as they, for various reasons, don't see their dad anymore.

I still have all our photos, my dress and the engagement ring. At the time, I thought I would have them as I was worried he'd bin the photos. I have never looked at them since we split (2.5 years or so after being married 18 months when ds was 2 months old). The only photo I ever look at is a lovely one of me and my brother at the reception, as my Mum still has it with the other family photos.

I think like in all things, we need to lay as much antipathy aside as we can for the children's sakes, monumentally hard as it is. I'd rather rip him to shreds!

We were happy once, tho as someone else said, I should have listened to the nagging voice...

Also, remember the jewellery will only INCREASE in value. So unless you need the money now, keep it for as long as possible (Family friend is a jeweller and recommends this!).

The dress tho. Mine wasn't traditional in any way and I live near a 'dress agency' so am thinking of selling it. I'm closer to getting in it again now, and, you'll laugh, but it really could be worn for other occasions as it's an evening outfit, but my chances of getting to go somewhere suitable wear it again are slim (ha ha!) to none!

thanks vistana x