I think I need help...........

[talie101]

... can't bear watching the OW with my dc's in her arms! Think twisting a knife inside me would be far less painful !!

Yes, I can't stand the sight of her - feel I have unfinished business with her and want revenge at times, but wouldn't give her the satisfaction - and Yes, I would be ecstatic if him and her disappeared off the face of the earth!

No, I wouldn't want her to ignore my dc's, Nor would I want her to be horrible to them and by all accounts she's a good stepmum.

..... but it's still so painful to watch her holding, cuddling and kissing my dc's in front of me and I get the feeling she gets great satisfaction from it almost like getting one over me!

Or maybe I'm just paranoid and really do need help - after all I'm the only one feeling the pain???!!!!!

Am I alone in feeling like this?

Talie, no you are not the only one I am sure [and I know].

I must say, it's really insensitive of her to do this in front of you...in fact wierd. I suspect she dosn't have her own children?

Don't react in front of her/them-rise above it and hold your head high. They will never love anyone like they do you, their real mum! Just think, who does this woman think she's kidding?!!

Why are you watching? Keep handovers really short and cut down on her opportunities if you feel she is making a meal of it to make you feel bad.

Having said that, and given that this isn't a recent split if she is now their stepmum, yeah, you might want to think about counselling - my DD's stepmum is lovely and I have no problem at all with her cuddling DD, I'd much rather they got on and were affectionate than have any problems. In fact, I can't help feeling that she is far too good for my ex and a bit sorry for her!

Could you possibly be dumping all that negativity on her rather than your ex?