Can you advise my friend reg. contact with newly seperted husband

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My friend and her dh ahve decided to split amicably after 12 years together. They both agree that they have been living together more as friends than as a couple for a good while now, and luckily for the children there is no hostitly. Just a realisation they have grown apart.

My friend works and her dh looks after the children while she is at work. My friend wants this to continue and for things to remain as stable as possible for the sake of their young children.

She is worried though, she plans to claim tax credits as a single parent and she is not sure how much time the children's father can stay in the house without commiting benefit fraud.

Obviosuly he won't be sleeping there and all his belongings will be at his new house. But he will be at the old marital home daily to look after the children. His name will also be on the deeds and mortgage until my friend decides to sell which won't be in the near future.

Can you understand her concerns and do you know where she stands?

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not sure, my ex comes a coupld of nights a weeek while i am at work and sunday morn when i am at work. he is living and registered at different address. as far as i know if you are seperated you are seperated leading seperate lives and howver you work it for the children/practical reasons is up to you and you are entitled to the tax credits.

Hi!

I am not going through an amicable seperation myself, I am going through a very unamicable one and I thoroughly recommend your friend makes the most of all the help and co-operation you can from her almost too good to be true, soon to be ex-partner, tell the tax credits people what's going on and let them decide what benefit she's entitled too. Just my opinion...