Single mothers by choice?

[LeilaL]

I became a single mother by choice two years ago ie. intentionally became pregnant knowing I would be bringing up my child alone. Anyone else out there in a similar position?

I am a single mother too but not by choice. My ex-boyfriend wanted to live his life freely without responsibilities. So, he chose to leave me. I told myself that I will take care of my child myself and provide the best education. I hope i will be able to do it as a single mother.

I'm single mum by choice via DI - trying to find a thread with other SMBC - hello anyone?

Bumping this thread In hopes to re awaken the conversation.

@TreasureinMyTummy can I send you a PM?

@GRW , @2babies1me , @Kewcumber and others who are Single mothers by choice ... are you still active on here? Would love to message you to chat about this. I’m nearing to this decision for next year x

@3xcookedchips a lot of Single mothers by choice are open with their children, trust me there is no pain like that of having a birth father you know and rejects you, is an awful father, it’s a life long scar for a child who grows into an adult. Who once was part of the initial perfect two parent family with white picket fence. There are pro’s and con’s of every situation. And nothing is a 100% garauntee, perfect, or ideal. Add a mother who fails just like the father and I would have taken a mother who really wanted me so much she went to great lengths for that and the option to get to know my heritage who my donor father was later on (very often it is a non anonymous donor) legally able to seek knowledge of them at 18 where the donor has offered to be indentifiable.

Really interested in this as a topic. I'm a single mum to a toddler, we split a year ago and dad had contact up until six months ago- his choice. I would love another child but don't want another relationship or to go through anything similar to the past year again. How would you tell a child born from DI about their parentage? Previous to having my toddler I'd considered DI (and wish I had!) but I'd 90% sure I'd like to try. Are there any UK based groups that support you through the process? TIA xx

Bella feel free to messsge me

Peachy there is a good thread in here with lots of people you can ask questions about process.

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Yes me too. Have a nearly 1 year old boy from DI. Bloody exhausting but I love him to bits!!

I’d love to get in contact with similar mothers out there too X

@bellaLDN @TreasureInMyTummy @stonecirclegal I’m a single mummy by choice to a beautiful 13 day old daughter. Please feel free to message me x

Hi huni, I made the decision to b a single parent 2 weeks ago with my 3 & 5 yr olds. It has been the hardest thing I have ever done but I know its for the best! Xx

Hi to Choice Mums on this thread!
I’m 41, single (not for lack of trying) and have found out I have very low ovarian reserve and DE is my option. So currently researching.
Any advice on how to make the decision to be a Choice Mum? I never expected to be doing this by myself and wondering how I will juggle being a single parent and career and if I even should. I don’t live close to family but have a lot of friends. It seems like such a huge step! Worried about being lonely and perhaps never meeting someone.. thoughts and experience ?

I am a single mother by choice in that I chose to leave my ex-partner. It was my decision.

However I put a great deal of effort & negotiation into ensuring my ds has a healthy relationship with his father, pushing for them to spend a day together every week, providing a nice environment for them to meet and so on.

Ds sees more of his dad now than when we were together, and he never sees him drunk which is important. It is always a balancing act, no matter what the circumstances.

Sorry for the silly question - what does DI stand for?

Hi,

I have DD 2 and she was an “accident” baby - I bloody hate that phrase though.. birth control failed and her father fled basically. She’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me, I’m loving being her mum.

I really want another, am 36, financially secure etc so thinking about Donor once we’ve moved into our new house this summer.. didn’t have the best time being pregnant but I can endure it - it’s worth it!

DD not having a father and my responsibility in that situation is always with me.. I do worry as she deserves everything.. BUT I didn’t have a great experience with my father and I know she’s better off without than one who is damaging.. I guess you’ve just got to get on with it as best you can really and enjoy life and be happy....

What is worrying about that going to do - nothing??

Hello,

Please may I ask where to start in this process? I noticed above it was mentioned to only cost a few hundred pound to source DS - I’ve only found places with prices of around £1300 for it.

Any advice greatly appreciated.

Thanks

Do you mean you used a sperm donor?

Have you tried asking people you know? You might be surprised. For sure you will surprise them :)