where do i start.
so recently he has gotten him a young thai gf (there's already a 25 yr gap between me and dc dad so really i shouldn't even acknowledge this)
after a rocky relationship where they broke up and got back together a few time she seems to have moved in.
fine... keeps him off my back
well... i wish it would. but he still insists on trying to get a fly grope and asks me to move back every time i see him. even when she is in house
anyhow..... turns out he has known all along she isn't eligible to remain in uk.
she moved here with a gentleman she married from down south. he left her.
she now has to go back home in few weeks.
exdp has always known this.
yet has introduced her to the dc.
he had problems with his self employed business.... and hasn't been able to take dc at their usual times.
his solution is to drop kids with this girl, she will bath, feed and put them to bed. he can just come home when he feels like.
i have 2 main reasons not to trust this situation.
1)exdp is gambling addict. him having to watch dc one night a week was successfully keeping him away from casinos that night... now he will be able to keep going again.puuting my dc back in same atmosphere they were in that caused me to leave. i.e him coming home at 7am... awful bad mood. shouting at everyone if he's lost and then storming to bed leaving the "woman of house" to deal with dc
2)she has a ds.... young... who is back in homeland. he she neither wants or makes any effort to see again.
if she doesn't want anything to do with her own dc... i feel she's not the right type of person to be caring for my dc.
3)she's going away in few weeks. why get them used to her. when she's going to be going home so soon?