6th date - his house - staying over???

[girlsandboys]

hi all, this is my first post in lone parents. I've been separated 7 months and end of jan went on soulmates. Met a couple of guys and one chap I've met now I think it's 5 times. At first I didn't fancy him at all (though we talked for 3 and a half hours over coffee!) then we met again for coffee and I started to notice some rather sweet things about him. We wnet to cinema 3rd time, 4th he took me out for dinner. Dinneer went on for 6 hours and I was gettng quite interested. We had our first snog that time and it was LOVELY. Met for lunch last Monday, more nice kissing. Lots of texts and emails (all lovely and sweet) between times. Now he has invited me to his for dinner on Friday night and I (possibly stupidly) asked if I could stay over as I have an early train to catch next morning and it's easier to go from his. he seems (obviously if am seeing him for 6th time) VERY nice. Not obviously attractive but actually as I get to know him I'm starting to develop an attraction to him. Anyway, questions - a) am I mad to think about staying over in advance like this? and b) is he a "grower" or am I just desperate for a shag perhaps???? (it's been far TOO long)

I have his address and will give to a friend - he works for himself and I have seen his website etc - it all checks out...

is it just too good to be true?

Go with your gut feeling. Only you know this guy the way you do and it is no different from normal dating. If you feel ok then do it but if you have anything in your head saying no, then don't.

Having a friend know where you are is also a great idea so good for you to think that way. Just because you are staying over doesn't mean you have to shag either if you don't want to lol you can always leave if you feel weird once you are there. Just have fun and enjoy being out there again!

thanks emmabemmasmum - think I am just feeling weird as last time I slept with anyone for first time I was in my 20s and probably drunk so didn't actally give it any thought in advance...

I have told this guy I only suggested it as was easier for me next morning and that I was bring my best startched button up to neck pyjamas and sleeping on sofa - I was quasi-joking - though the pjs are currently drying in preparation at home...he will get a surprsie when I shake them out of my overnight bag

yeah, he's lovely, I guess jst cos I met him on t'internet doesn't mean I need to be any more suspicious than anyhow else, and waiting til date 6 is astounding for me...

Well just have fun then! I know what you mean though as I have been there. Been seperated and tried the dating thing and its hard once you gave been out of the game for awhile lol

Have been out of the game rather! Lol sorry hard to type on phone lol

6 dates!?!?! Sheesh! lol

I thought modern convention is 3 dates......

well, he was a slow starter... I had to hold his hand before he worked up courage to kiss me on date 4

so, a shag on date 6 is not a sign of a fallen woman then? do you think I shouldn't have mentioned the flannel pyjamas?

what if it's shit??? oh dear god will I even remember what to do?

aaarrrgh!

You've done the right thing....you've left it to him to push a little with the mention of pyjamas. You've cast your ASD (Anti-Slut-Defence), now its up to him to break down any token LMR (Last Minute Resistance).

As for remembering what to do.....am sure it will come back to you! After all, all a woman has to do is lie there and think of Britain....(ducks!)

not sure am that bothered if that's all I'm expected to do!!! what's the fun in that eh?

god, am now imagining all you men down t'pub talking in acronyms about the women in your lives and your sexual exploits - yeurgh!