'me time'

[charlieliz]

how is it that by the time I eventually get some 'me time' I am too tired to enjoy it and spend it by myself, usually in my pjs reading a book and watching tv? Cannot remember the last time I went out as 'me'.

same here Charlieliz

my 'me' time is collapsing with MN in the evening.

I've been on my own for a year now and I have to say I'm starting to go a teensy-weensy bit bad in the evenings without an adult to talk to (no one to phone up either).

I've been on my own almost 11 years barring a couple of brief and unsuccessful attempts to get back into the couples thing! The only adults I seem to talk to when my boys are away are those who work in shops!

I was conscious of doing the same thing night after night and decided to give the social life a kick up the bum by joining a community choir at the local secondary school. We meet up once a week for a few hours so I make the effort to get there and pay a babysitter to look after my son. I've made some new friends and it's led onto concerts and other opportunities to meet people. Fun too.

Any interest you could pursue?

my problem is I am just too tired to do anything in the week evenings, or maybe also too shy and hermitlike! The longer you leave it the harder it gets eh?

So true.

Two things from me (and I fail in lots of ways)..
Make the most of those little bits of time you have to yourslef from dc - I read a chapter of a cookery book tonight while she did painting and it was GOOD.
Secondly, it is, take what you have and build in tiny steps. I was in a terrible way my first weekend to "myself" and it has gradually improved. Just do one thing, be that Chinese takeaway or an art gallery or a run or a bottle of red or.... it matters not at all. One thing, ok?? And then.. these things will grow. I promise that...

Great advice mousie

I'm sure all single mums empathise with you on this one, charlie! I'm so tired sometimes that I just sit amongst the mess of toys and games and vegetate.

On the positive side, I've recently split with my boyfriend of 18 months and feel so relieved tbh. I now have so much more energy and when my DSs are with ExDH I can do whatever I like! No more running around trying to be everything to everybody.

I want to get fit to do the Race for Life (my poor Mum has cancer) so am going for a free day at the gym tomorrow and am planning on joining. I can't wait. I feel like I have a goal now and something to work towards.

But just remember, there's nothing wrong with spending your 'me time' in your jammies and just chilling out. Recharge your batteries!

I last had a night out in 2006.
I've been invited out next Saturday night to my workmate's house.
I declined, as I have no sitter for DD, but she's insisted it's fine, and DD can play on her DDs' (13 and 15 and won't be there) Wii.

I am going, but I am already cringing at rocking up with my child when no one else has theirs.

I know exactly what you mean OP...

Although tbh lying round in my pj's reading a book s sounds pretty fun. Weeeeell... maybe not fun exactly but relaxing...!

As I put in my other post, It takes a community to raise children, and this is something we've forgotten.
Where are we all located?
Can people get together and help each other?
Can we start a group to watch each others' kids allowing us to go out and get that much needed and deserved me time?
How about it?

I'm in an area where it's quite easy to travel to other areas and spend a day or night out.
Oxford, London, Birmingham, etc.

Let me know anyone if you would be interested.