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charlieliz · 17/02/2010 20:40

how is it that by the time I eventually get some 'me time' I am too tired to enjoy it and spend it by myself, usually in my pjs reading a book and watching tv? Cannot remember the last time I went out as 'me'.

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chubbasmum · 17/02/2010 22:37

same here Charlieliz

Megletwantsittobesummer · 17/02/2010 22:40

my 'me' time is collapsing with MN in the evening.

I've been on my own for a year now and I have to say I'm starting to go a teensy-weensy bit bad in the evenings without an adult to talk to (no one to phone up either).

charlieliz · 18/02/2010 05:55

I've been on my own almost 11 years barring a couple of brief and unsuccessful attempts to get back into the couples thing! The only adults I seem to talk to when my boys are away are those who work in shops!

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Chil1234 · 18/02/2010 13:38

I was conscious of doing the same thing night after night and decided to give the social life a kick up the bum by joining a community choir at the local secondary school. We meet up once a week for a few hours so I make the effort to get there and pay a babysitter to look after my son. I've made some new friends and it's led onto concerts and other opportunities to meet people. Fun too.

Any interest you could pursue?

charlieliz · 18/02/2010 18:09

my problem is I am just too tired to do anything in the week evenings, or maybe also too shy and hermitlike! The longer you leave it the harder it gets eh?

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notevenamousie · 18/02/2010 18:39

So true.

Two things from me (and I fail in lots of ways)..
Make the most of those little bits of time you have to yourslef from dc - I read a chapter of a cookery book tonight while she did painting and it was GOOD.
Secondly, it is, take what you have and build in tiny steps. I was in a terrible way my first weekend to "myself" and it has gradually improved. Just do one thing, be that Chinese takeaway or an art gallery or a run or a bottle of red or.... it matters not at all. One thing, ok?? And then.. these things will grow. I promise that...

ninah · 18/02/2010 18:41

Great advice mousie

IvanaPavlov · 19/02/2010 18:53

I'm sure all single mums empathise with you on this one, charlie! I'm so tired sometimes that I just sit amongst the mess of toys and games and vegetate.

On the positive side, I've recently split with my boyfriend of 18 months and feel so relieved tbh. I now have so much more energy and when my DSs are with ExDH I can do whatever I like! No more running around trying to be everything to everybody.

I want to get fit to do the Race for Life (my poor Mum has cancer) so am going for a free day at the gym tomorrow and am planning on joining. I can't wait. I feel like I have a goal now and something to work towards.

But just remember, there's nothing wrong with spending your 'me time' in your jammies and just chilling out. Recharge your batteries!

muggglewump · 19/02/2010 18:57

I last had a night out in 2006.
I've been invited out next Saturday night to my workmate's house.
I declined, as I have no sitter for DD, but she's insisted it's fine, and DD can play on her DDs' (13 and 15 and won't be there) Wii.

I am going, but I am already cringing at rocking up with my child when no one else has theirs.

Janos · 19/02/2010 20:59

I know exactly what you mean OP...

Although tbh lying round in my pj's reading a book s sounds pretty fun. Weeeeell... maybe not fun exactly but relaxing...!

emmygreen · 27/02/2010 12:35

As I put in my other post, It takes a community to raise children, and this is something we've forgotten.
Where are we all located?
Can people get together and help each other?
Can we start a group to watch each others' kids allowing us to go out and get that much needed and deserved me time?
How about it?

emmygreen · 27/02/2010 12:38

I'm in an area where it's quite easy to travel to other areas and spend a day or night out.
Oxford, London, Birmingham, etc.

Let me know anyone if you would be interested.

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