Need some advice on contact centres and exp not being able to pay the fees....

[returningstress]

It has taken him a year to sort it out so that he can see dd in a contact centre. Now they have asked him to pay £40 registration fee and £15 every other week so that he can use the centre to see dd. Which I would have thought he would be more then happy to pay.

I spoke to my solicitor and she said that his solicitor has asked if I can help to pay this. So I was completely fuming and sad for dd.

So I called him to ask why can he not pay this. And he told me that because he is not working and is getting funding for the legal fees, if he pays this £15 every fortnight then he will not be eligable for the rest of the funding and will have to pay all the court fees which he does not have the money for at the moment.

So I called my solicitor again today and she said that is rubbish. I just cannot understand why he would keep lying about this, or if he is so stupid that he does not understand what his solicitor is saying.

This is such a mess and I am so fed up of his crap....

Are you sure that the contact center is charging? Most of them are voluntary organizations, so perhaps they have asked for a contribution as it does cost to run, but cannot imagine that non payment would stop him seeing your DD.

But wouldn't try and sort it out for him.

They are only asking for a registration fee of £40 and £15 every other week when dd goes there to see her dad.

And yes you are right I should not try to sort it out for him.

For months I have ignored any texts that he sent me as knew he just wanted to play games with me. But when my solicitor said he would not pay those small chargesfor the contact centre I had enough and finally gave in and called him.

I think I just need to stop contact with him again...

if is court ordered he can ask CAFCASS to pay.

in my case, i offered to pay half the costs (which were a lot more expensive) so contact could eb set up sooner - ex refused to pay and spent three months asking CAFCASS to pay instead. in the end they did - but he didnt stop complaining he hadnt seen his kids for three months.

he could have done - he just didnt want to pay!

so suggest he speaks to cafcass and dont offer to pay more than half the amount.

CAFCASS are not involved as we have not even beento court yet.

My solicitor has told me not to pay for it as it is his responsibily and he has not been very consistant in dd's life so far so we are taking it to the contact centre so that he can show some commitment top seeing dd, before having her alone.

I spoke to exp again and apparrently he can pay the money to see dd without having to pay all legal fees. He said his solicitor was giving him incorrect advice. All sounds like games to me....