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I am so annoyed with my ex husband

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Becky36 · 10/02/2010 20:04

My ex and I split four years ago and our son is now five. My ex has always worked shifts and only has our son on a Sunday afternoon and overnight Sunday and either or Wednesday or Thursday evening, again, overnight. For the last two years or so he has always taken him directly to school and only occasionally dropped him with me at 7.00am in the morning if he is on an early shift. Last Wednesday he didn't let me know that he was collecting our son and I had to text him to find out whether he was having him or not. He said he was and I left it at that. The following morning he turned up with our son at my house at 7.00am. I said that he hadn't mentioned that he was dropping him with me and he just said 'I thought you would know'. I then said it was a good job I was in as I had planned to spend the night at a friends house. He just sort of shrugged and went off to work. This week he mentioned to our son as he dropped him off here, again at 7.00am, that he would see him on Wednesday. At no point did he clarify this with me that he would be collecting him today. I have just text him to see what is happening tommorrow and he just sent a text back saying that he would drop him here at 7.00am. I asked him that if was going to drop him here rather than take him to school could he just drop me a quick text to let me know as I had planned to stay out tonight at a friend's house. His response was 'I just did'. I don't know what is going on as for the last couple of years he has communicated well about contact with our son and I have always made sure he could see him whenever he wanted. I just feel that he is now taking the piss as he can't even be bothered to let me know in good time what is happening and I have to chase him to find out. I don't know what to do about it.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 10/02/2010 20:22

sadly it might mean going back to your solicitors to have this set out formally
i'm presuming that you didn't do this when you separated/divorced?

Niceguy2 · 10/02/2010 20:34

If he's otherwise been pretty consistent with contact over the last four years then I'd say something is up. Something he doesn't want to tell you.

This is something where a real phone call or a face to face meeting is likely to work rather than texts.

Try that first before anything else.

Becky36 · 10/02/2010 21:16

I think that something is up too. On Monday my son said that my ex's partner had moved out of the house and that she was now living somewhere else. My ex hasn't said anything at all about this and I don't want to pry into his personal life. Although they have been together for about three years I have only seen her twice and even then she only said hello and nothing else. The only contact between my ex and I is usually by text. I have asked him to meet me before about stuff to do with our son and he refused. When we were together he was extremely controlling and abusive towards me and I have always bent over backwards to avoid conflict with him. All of a sudden he seems to want to avoid any communication with me about our son, even to the point where he just turns up with him expecting me to be at home. What would have happened if I hadn't been in? What would he have done then?

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