I am in a boring rut and need some hobbies/pastimes/friends - anyone want to join me in a support thread?

[aSilverLining]

We could encourage each other to look into hobbies, get in touch with friends, etc.

I left my ex in November and during the relationship (in which he was emotionally abusive) I lost touch with all my friends, only spent time with his friends and family, did stuff he wanted, was discouraged to spend time away from him and or DS. It means I am now free but with no hobbies or pastimes.

I basically need to rebuild my social life from the roots up. I am lucky in that DS goes to his dads two nights a week so I have these evenings (Wed and Sats) where I could do things, and also school time due to not working ATM (a combination of being DS's carer - he is autistic, and recovering from a gynae operation).

Is anyone else looking to do something similar who wants to chat as we try to do some things just for us, that we will enjoy and benefit personally from?

am just bumping really (although could probably do with more varied/exciting interests than knitting and horses ) but also wondering what sorts of hobbies you have in mind?

when I was quite newly single I used to enjoy a French conversation class and made lots of friends there, and classes at the gym were good for low-pressure social contact too - is there anything you've always wanted to learn but never had the time/opportunity?

Having a horrid, depressed day after nightmare weekend with my ex visiting.

Trying to concentrate on work (own business - come and join my team!) but having no luck.

Sounds like a good idea though - need a kick!

Thanks for the bump Mitchy

Have some things in mind yes that I know I would like. I was thinking...
> Tai Chi - done this before and enjoyed it
> a language - maybe french or spanish, I fancied learning polish but doesn't seem to be any classes locally which is daft as lots of Polish where I live, would be a useful one! as well as socialable (hopefully)
> swimming - for excercise rather than social
> a book club/group maybe?

I need to look into what is available and when it's on, how much etc.

I am also considering a course as a way into a new job, but not sure on this one. I am finding being able to decide what I want to do in my day to day life and longterm exciting but overwhelming.

Wheresmywaistgone - what is your business? {nosy} and to a weekend of ex visiting - was he in your company the whole weekend? {shudder}

it does all sound very exciting, luckily (from the overwhelming point of view) you can start with one or two things and take your time over the rest

there is something v liberating about being single isn't there, and having that freedom to live your life exclusively around you and your child(ren) rather than according to what suits a partner