Dead beat dad bastards - sorry I need to have a rant

[electra]

Dd3's dad has never met her and never bothered to even enquire about how she is. Apparently she makes his life 'wrong'. My heart bleeds for him(!)

Anyway, recently his family appear to have found out about dd3 and are horrified that he has a baby that he's ignoring (he is in England at the moment). His brother apparently phoned him to ask what is going on and he denied that she is his.

The next thing I knew I received an abusive email from him saying 'fuck you, I don't believe she's my daughter' and threatening me.

I never dreamed my life would end up resembling the Jerry Springer show.

I feel for you and your poor Dd, it's the kid's that suffer men don't seem to realise this, it appear's to me as if they think they are getting one up on you, in my experience anyway. My ex is the same but he has not even bothered to send any messages what so ever, even his family are not interested in my DS, i think sometimes kid's are better off without men in their lives like that.

electra i feel for you, it's shit when you feel lik eyour life has turned out so different to what you'd hoped for. Especially when it's just not what you envisaged for your precious children.

Some of these men need to grow up and grow a pair.

I cannot believe how much I felt for this man - I was completely blinkered to how horrid he is. I have bipolar disorder and got involved with him when I was quite unwell.

For him to say she is not his is ridiculous - she is the very image of him. But she's the loveliest child you could imagine.

You sound like me Electra it's uncanny, everything you say is identical to me, so can't really help in the advice department but if you want to talk i'm here.

He's a complete prick but HE is missing out not your georgeous dd. You are well shot of him.

Find a real man to love you both.

You are right. What I really don't like is how this makes me angry because really I'm not a hater at all.

But never in my life has any man or woman ever spoken to me the way he did.

Yes I have kept them. I reminded him that I will report his behaviour to the police if he makes threats to me. I suppose I will just have to come to terms with the fact that this was a very dark time in my life and that if I had been in my right mind it would not have happened.

Hi read my thread and i think i can totally agree with you and know what its like with a horrid ex and am having to face the next however long coping with him. good luck and just believe in your decisions and you will be happy in your life with your little one, im 10 days in and i will not be bullied but i totally understand its hard to do 'the right thing', staystrong and you will be able to look yourself in the mirror and know your did whats right for you and your baby!!