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Any advice on Cafcass?

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malephobic · 20/01/2010 01:03

Have been going through the whole contact process for the last eighteen months, court twice.. first time I was made to go in with my ex to see the cafcass officer and state my concerns (no prior warning!) second time the cafcass officer gave a verbal report, dismissing the concerns I had expressed to her and had empathised with so genuinely over the phone. Of course my ex pulled out the I serve my country card and got what ever he wanted. Now I have to go Friday for a meeting with a new cafcass officer who has to write a report for the 27th, what happened to the ten week process? he has arranged for their meeting at my little girl to be at a child activity center, so how will she evidence any parenting? and I have the third court hearing early feb. All this from a man who threatened to burn me in my house because I wouldn't abort, didn't see his daughter for the first three months and declined the offer to register on her birth certificate. I used to take her to his mum's for the weekend, I've taken her t see him in Wales, he's seen her when and for as long as HE wants and the whole court process is so he can have her unsupervised for one week in Wales when he hardly used to see her at all. Upholding the fathers right over that of the child is complete pants and can anything be done???

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cestlavielife · 20/01/2010 10:50

how old is the child?

what evidence do you have of his threats eg written or were they just verbal?

if he is not named on birth certificate how come he has contact? does he have PR? has he asked for PR?

has he had her overnight before?

malephobic · 20/01/2010 17:35

She is three, yes court granted PR against my wishes, the threat was verbal but he is a serving soldier so I took it very seriously! and no he has not had her overnight before and he is due to have this for the first time in two weeks supervised by his mother at her house

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cestlavielife · 20/01/2010 19:16

well there shoulod be a gradual build up of overnights before he has her the whole week - unless you happy with his mother supervising....

GypsyMoth · 20/01/2010 19:21

ask cafcass how they expect a relationship to be built? put the onus on them. be honest and straight with cafcass,they have heard and seen it all before

malephobic · 22/01/2010 20:37

Thanks so much, it went as bad as expected ha! well you live and learn, with this kind of behaviour and menn walking away at the drop of a hat to patures new and younger it is a wonder children are still being born, they just won't allow you to get on with your life...

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