XP and holidays...

[Nothernbird]

Hi - does anyone have any problems with their XPs/holidays with the kids. When we split up, we agreed that he would spend 4 weeks of his holiday with the kids (he theoretically gets 5 weeks, although last year had 4 holidays without the kids !) and I would do the same. All good and amicable so far.

I asked if I could have them over May half term this year. Took him a week to respond, even though I checked he'd received my e-mail. He now wants to take them away for 2 weeks in the summer but won't tell me where. Does anyone know if he is legally obliged to tell me where he is taking OUR kids? Also, can I say no to him if it doesn't fit in with plans, or is that bad form?

No he's not legally obliged but I'd say it really is a matter of common courtesy.

If you trust him to take them away for two weeks then I'd be inclined to just let them go. Pushing to know where will just make matters worse at the moment whilst you both dig your heels in.

Chances are the destination will pop out of his mouth or the kids at some point. Its a long way off until summer.

Thanks NiceGuy... I suppose I just don't understand why he won't tell me where he's taking them. But he won't so perhaps I shouldn't rock the boat...

Who knows, it could be a surprise for the kids, it could be just trying to wind you up.

Probably the latter so in which case not letting him have the satisfaction is the best way. When he realises you don't care, he'll probably just tell you anyway.