I am going to need help with this (online dating)

[MrsMorgan]

Right, after saying i'd never join another one, I have.

After sifting through the replies from oap's and weirdos, there was one from a seemingly normal, nice looking bloke.
He had sent a preset message, saying he liked my profile.

I sent one back saying thanks and asked how his day was going and wether he was fed up of the snow (when in doubt resort to talking about the weather lol).

I really am so crap at this type of stuff and although am sure he will soon dissapear in a puff of smoke, I could do with tips on wtf do I do, just incase lol.

It has been ages since I even spoke to a bloke and I am terminally shy.

Will join you in that - can't really be of any great help as not hugely confident about approaching guys myself. It's just taken me eight months to recontact one of the few non-weirdos and will probably take me another six months to arrange to go for a drink with him!

I'm sure someone else will be along who can give you more advice. All I can say is try not to take it too seriously, take most things with a pinch of salt and try to have fun!

Run a search and send messages to loads. Internet dating is just like being in a pub -- you can have a fleeting chat with hundreds of people for each one you ever get anywhere with...

But having said that, good luck!

Thanks both

Have exchanged a couple of messages since, so will see how it goes.

They usually disappear as soon as I send a photo

what kind of photo have you got?

Someone sent me a note the other day saying 'it doesn't matter, no one ever replies anyway'. Erk. When I looked, his photo was awful. Taken from below, perfect view of his double chin, plus taken with a webcam so that you could see the monitor reflected in both lenses of his glasses... he couldn't have looked more stalkerish if he tried...

Anyway, I must have been feeling kind, cos I actually mailed him back suggesting he change it. He did send back saying thank you. Poor sod!

Oh I know, some of the pics are awful arent they.

My profile pic is ok i think, nice smiley one. He has seen it anyway and still replied lol.

His pic is nice too.

Just contact as many as you can, and chat to them on email, see how it goes, who feels easier to talk to... then get very brave and arrange to meet up with anyone that you think you might get on with.

tip: try and do quick drink after work or a daytime coffee, anything that lets you get away quickly, as you know fairly immediately if it's not going anywhere. That way you can both get out of it without embarassment. If it's going well you can go on to dinner or have a few more drinks or whatever...

i had a terrible experience where i was in contact with two guys, i had a couple of drinks with both but nothing else, but was exchanging emails... They turned out to be brothers. apparently they both started talking about this girl they'd met when they were at their mum's house for lunch. i nearly died of shame!

Omg pintandchips, how weird.

I've not contacted any yet because they never seem to reply.

Have had more mail from quite odd people today though lol.

The bloke I have swapped a couple of messages with has gone quiet, but thats fine, wouldn't be the first time.

Well that was short lived lol.

I have sent two messages to two other blokes, but not had replies.

I don't think I am very good at this.

Hi MrsM - just take it in your stride - after all they're not real iykwim. Just keep messaging anyone you like the sound of and try not to take it too seriously. I'm a fine one to talk though and do find that from time to time I have to stop with all the internet stuff as it just gets me down - but usually return after a decent break as can't think of any other way of meeting someone!