age gaps

[Phoenix4725]

anyone else got a age gap betwen dc and struggle to keep both sets happy on days out holidays.

i have dsalmost 16, ds2 13,dd6 and ds3 who is 4.i know that im lucky as older 2 will muck in when things are for younger dc and there both good about doing own thinsg at theme parks but then I end up needing their help as ds3and dd both need a adult on the rides with them more complicated as ds3 uses a wheelchair so end up feeling guilty that i have to rely on them

There is not even way when i can just do something with older 2 as no one to watch ds3 and dd

am i the only one struggling with age gaps then ?

No, You're not the only one I have DS 18 and two DD 5 and 2. DS is an absolute hero when it comes to the little ones, but his patience and tolerance does where very thin with them.

Difficulties tend to arise at meal times, conversation can be very limited, DS doesn't want to talk about ponies (dd1 obsession) and similarly conversation about what DS has done at school isn't always suitable either. Further complicated by the fact that he boards at school Mon-Fri and has a lot to say at the weekend. The DD's have also had my attention all week and he feels that weekends should be his.

School holidays are a nightmare. We live in the backend of nowhere so no public transport. DS is reliant on me to drive him everywhere, but with the two littleones to get to bed, he also has too be home impossibly early for an 18yr old (7pm).

I understand the guilt and regularly feel that theres not enough of me to go around, unfortunately its the way our lives have panned out. DS does get frustrated but fortunately for me understands and is aware that the time is fast approaching where he will have time and space of his own.