dd and ex bf

[ilovesprouts]

hi can anyone give my some advice ,my dd is 23 wks pg shes not with babys dad [long story] wen she told him she was pg the first thing he said was get rid ,anyhow to cut a long story short ,he came to our house last night ,told dd he wants access etc and shes unstable ,and thinks she may harm her baby ive got a ds at 3 shes always been hands on shes also baby sat for lots of ppl and had no complains at all,now shes worried hes already been to see a solictor etc mummy has helped him !! any advice would be helpfull

Does he have any rights if they're not married? Or if she doesn't put his name on birth certificate? I don't know the legalities but I'm sure someone on here does...

no not married hes just been an arse

Does "mummy" want a 2nd chance at being "mummy" or trying to scare your dd away from ex bf so he can get on with his life?

How old is dd btw?

Can I just check I have read correctly - this man (your DD's ex) came to YOUR house and insulted your DD in this way? If that is right then how bloody dare he! You must be fuming on your DD's behalf. This stuff he is spouting is absolute BS and often used by exes.

I would suggest your DD gets herself to a solicitor asap purely to get some advice and protection for herself. If she doesn't work or is on a low income she will more than likely be able to get legal aid.

Unless his mother is a solicitor I would not be too concerned or threatened by her 'help'.

hi dd is nearly 18 ex bf is nearly 20 his mummy has gone through the same thing whith her hubbys new kids ,thinks she knows it all as shes a sience teacher and even asked if it was her sons baby was gonna buy her some things for the baby pram etc but shes not now ,but i told dd she wont be short of owt if im here , also she feels stresed out whith him too she went to bed at 7pm

Firstly ,bear in mind that this silly woman can threaten all sorts but it won't get her very far (domestic abusers are always threatening to get their ex wives labelled mad and take custody of the children, it's just a bullying tactic, they can't do it when the mother is NOT mad and there is no evidence of it). Secondly, if she comes round again tell her to get lost or you wil have her removed by the police, and if she continues making untrue allegations about your DD you will consult a solicitor about bringing an action for slander and harassment.