It hurts that they don't care

[RedHairedGirlie]

I know I should be focussing on the people that do care and love my DD (9 months), but can't help feeling sad that her father has no interest in seeing her or being part of her life what so ever, and with Christmas looming it just makes it all feel worse... Does it get easier as time goes on or will all Christmas's and Birthdays hit a nerve?

I know its down to me to get over these negative feelings.. I just find it so hard whenever I look at her beautiful little smiling face..she is just so innocent :-(..

I sympathise so much
My DD1 has been in tears tonight (she is 8), because she feels jealous and left out (he father is now with the OW and their DD), she is also getting wise to his selfish, self absorbed ways, it hurts like bloody hell, not being able to fix the hurt !
All you can do is be there, be constant, be positive, be loving and let them know they are loved and wanted and the most important thing is your life!

My DD2 (nearly 2) is a happy little soul but has never lived with her dad, and I guess for her is erratic and less than enthusiastic contact is just normal for her!

She has you and thats the most important thing

Gosh macdoodle sounds awful for your DD1, that must be so upsetting for you to see her so upset. I'm not at that stage yet, but do dread the thought of when she will ask questions - Knowing that her father is with someone else and her 1/2 sister makes it feel all the worse - just knowing he is giving love and attention to one and not the other... such a selfish twunt..