Struggling as per usual. Feeling bullied from all angles.
Ex sees dc's when it suits him usually about 2 weekend overnights/months and one weekend day. Apart from the odd time when I have something arranged with dcs I try to be accomodating - although he tells people I make it difficult to see dc's
Last christmas was out first since split. He insisted with support from both families that we should do it together. It was awful he refused to help, lay on the couch claiming to be ill etc, refused to play with dc's while I did the work.
Anyway this year I thought he would want to come round but he doesn't. He wants to have them at 12pm on xmas day until boxing day and spend the day with his family which I suppose if fine. I suspect he is going out on xmas eve hence not being bothered about them opening presents etc but that is niether here nor there.
Problem being my parents have planned to have us over for lunch and don't want to back down saying that I do all the work, sleepness night etc and he can't dictate what happens. They want to say that he can have from first thing in morning until 3pm and they are insisting that we come over at that time.
I am not sure that any of these options suit me but I know I will be nagged up from both sides.
dc's I think will be happy either way as long as theey don't get rushed with presents in the am.
Sorry this all seems so petty written down
I just feel that everyone is fighting over a piece of the dc's and trying to come up with a plan that suits before I have to face them!