God the closer xmas gets the lonlier I feel

[MrsMorgan]

I know we are all in the same boat, tis pants though.

Made the mistake of looking at some pics of the staff xmas party of the place I worked at before I split with xp. I didn't even like the job that much, just feeling left out I think.

Hi Mrs Morgan, last year we had a support thread on mn for all the lone parents, it was a life line for a lot of us, just to chat and have a laugh, maybe you should start the thread this year.

merry xmas

Can relate to this totally as I am in much the same boat. Have just joined an internet dating website but so far am getting few messages. Do ALL men only want someone thin? I can diet and will but even so it would be nice to think they look beyond the photo and read the spiel.

Christmas is a crap time of year to be alone when all the advertising etc would have you believe that the rest of the world is together in bliss. Remember that is not the case and there are many of us out there.

Tis pants indeed though

I am spending Xmas with my ex and his parents (so DS can see them). In the New Year I will be sorting out a divorce though (we have lived 200 miles apart for past 2 years) to draw a line under it all. Next Xmas I suspect it just be me and DS as I cannot see my in-laws being that welcoming after divorce.

Hi passmyglass, I remember the thread, I was here then, but have since namechanged because alot of people didn't like me moaning on.

If I started the thread i'm not sure anyone would post on it, but thanks for the offer.

Jolly - I have given internet dating a go a few times now but never got as far as meeting up with anyone. I only attrcat really old men or blokes after one thing. I think you have to be really thick skinned for it to work, and i'm not lol.

Might be a non-starter for me too then - not very thick skinned me.

I have spoken to a couple on msn but they tend to either suddenly ask stuff via webcam or they dissapear off the face of the earth.

It is certainly not very confidence boosting. I also tend to attract people in rl mainly who pretend they like me, and then as soon as I start to respond they back track and say they were only having a laugh.

Nice eh ? lol

Know how you feel OP. So lonely it's painful. Gave up on dating sites, really not the place to meet people, but I suppose it made me realise I was nowhere near ready to date again, so have relaxed and accepted it. I don't want to feel used.

Just me and DD Xmas Eve/Day, then she goes to ExH for 3 days. Not looking forward to it.

must admit mrsm - this year is the first christmas for a while that i havent been dreading it. is years since my ex went and never really missed her - was just me and the kids which was fine as we got on really well. since splitting with my last gf a couple of years ago ive just hated christmas as we had all sorts of plans. must be me, but i got over divorce and stuff easier than my last gf - i must be getting soft

anyway - here's hoping for a good one, good food and happy kids

I try to not let it bother me but it does.

I won't be alone on xmas day, will have the kids and my mum and at least one of my brothers here, but it's not the same.

Oh well, nothing can be done about it so just have to stop whinging about it.

As long as the kids have a good time then thats all that matters.

yeah, im feeling a bit the same the last couple of days. Im a bit up and down about it.
Prob not helped by the fact that DD is ill and we havent really left the house for almost a bloody week.

Still.....

Im hosting xmas day and am mums boxing day, DD, if she is well enough will be going to her dads.

Hopefully the day will go quick, im sure it will be ok, im lucky to have family to spend it with.... i supose im just feeling a little bit bridget jones like.

Ah yes, feeling very bridget jones like here too, but minus the friends lol.

All I want for xmas is to be wanted.

Oh well, here's to valentines day

morning all, just 3 days till the big day!

hey MrsMorgan your lovely dcs want you

I was in your position last year, and its shit I know, best thing is to let it all out on here.

I did meet someone a few of the internet and we have now been together 9 months!

So it is possible, but you have to be in the right frame of mind and feel confident about yourself, because the confidence enables you to say no to all the possible nutters there are out there!

Oh yeh, I know my dc want me, particularly when I am in the bath, or on the loo or watching a film

I know it is possible to meet someone new, I see it happening all the time, just not to me. Blokes just seem to not like me, but nevermind i'll get over it, one day

Off to finnish my xmas shopping today, so better get a move on.

I'll be alone on xmas night, ater packing DCs off to the exes. shall be watching doctor who and confidential then off to bed with a bottle of jack daniels and my laptop/pile of books.

in a way it's nice. I don't have to do anything I don't want to - but then that's the trade off for someone to fight your corner and rub your feet. sadly most men I seem to meet are vile, idiots, married or gay (I'm very picky!) and i'd rather be picky and content(ish)on my own than believing in fairytales.

I can watch hamlet on boxing day, uninterrupted by pleas to watch top gear. bliss!

Lol, what is it with Top Gear, my eldest dd loves it.

My dc normally go to their dads on a Friday evening so would have been going on xmas day night, but they said they didn't want to, so they are going boxing day night instead.

I think I have become quite picky too, and scared of making the same mistake twice. I met xp in a similar way to the internet and he'd got me well and truey reeled in before I actually met him.

I have at least decided that meeting anyone online is not going to be for me, and that as I don't socialise much then meeting a man may never happen. I must have accepted it because otherwise i'd do something about it lol.

Right, I really am off to do my shopping now lol.

so how is the xmas shopping going for everyone?

we are on a limited budget here, as the ex decided to quit his job last month, so hasn't paid anything towards the children until very last minute.

I have managed to get a lot of little things rather than one big thing, I am sure they wont even notice.

All the food and drink has been bought

I dont care how bad it is financially as long as I can afford my bottle of wine I'll be alright!

I am doing ok shopping wise. I added bits of food to my normal weekly shop for the last few weeks.

I am not going mad with food anyway because so much just gets wasted.

My xp has also stopped giving me any money for the dc so I have struggled a bit, but done ok.

I know what you mean about the wine, it is the only thing I buy for myself really.

Still feeling achingly lonely but I will be fine xmas day when people are here.

MERRY CHRISTMAS

EVERYONE [FGRIN]