should i thank 'estranged' FIL for £10 in an envelope and my dd's name spelt wrong??

[MaggieAnFiaRua]

I get my dd to write thank you letters for presents, but the last communication between me and xfil was when he sent me a snotty email giving out to me because i hadn't acknowledged receipt of a parcel he'd sent. I HAD and I'd cc'd his son in on the mail i sent. So he was definitely wrong. I emailed him to say that if he didn't feel I was grateful enough quickly enough then I wouldn't be offended if he no longer wished to send gifts at christmas. happy new year.

That was last year. now, this year, dd has obviously been relegated from a proper present chosen with her in mind to ten quid bunged into an envelope and her name spelt wrong!!!! (he used to know how to spell it )

should i get my dd to write a letter thanking him for the ten measly quid?

well i deliberately posted on the lone parents board because i didn't want to be reminded of what the moral high ground course of action would be..
i thought it would be nice to vent to people who had tricky awkward x in laws.

Yes you should try to rise above it and send a note. He could have just not bothered at all.

And my sister - who doesn't have a hard name to spell - is always getting cards etc. from relatives with her name mispelled. Some of the aren't even consistently wrong! Take a deep breath and get the thank you notes out.

I would have preferred if he hadn't bothered at all Santaschristmascakeywakey. That would make more sense to me. This is a dig. A dig that I have to now 'rise above'.

Are you sure he received the previous "thank you" email? It's possible it went into his spam folder or something.

You don't have to rise above it if you really can't bear to (I did say 'try' ). You still sound very cross about last year. What would you feel better doing?

oldlady, well his son told him that he'd received the email and he was only cc'd in on it, and his son got the photo i'd attached too. (his son being dd's dad)

I will rise above it. But I can'tbear that man.

ps yes, i am still angry. 6 years of writing thank you letters and choosing gifts for pils when it was their birthday/christmas/fathers day/mothers day and then just ONCE he doesn't get an email to let him know the parcel had arrived and he's straioght back at me with a snotty mail!! didn't even text me to say 'has it arrived?'. it was like he couldn't wait to fall out with me now i've left his son.

Sorry, I was rather grasping at straws, there.

Did you get along with him while you were still with your ex? Or has he always been a miserable bugger?