I'd like to give up now

[MrsMorgan]

I know I can't, but it needed to be said anyway and I can't say it to anyone in real life.

[GypsyMoth]

i would like to give up too...

[MrsMorgan]

Do you think anyone ever notices that you might be at that point ILT ?? No one does here

[HanBanan]

Trouble is we can't give up can we? Hope you're alright. I think people concentrate on their own worries and it seems they don't notice when really they are struggling themselves. Perhaps we all do a good job of hiding it. You ok?

[MrsMorgan]

Yeah i'll be fine, it is just the combination of a selfish ex, xmas, kids and life lol.

Like you say, giving up is not an option anyway, so I will carry on as normal, like we all do.

[GypsyMoth]

my dd's are teenagers now,and the eldest will sometimes come along and take the baby up to her room with her....think she recognises i'm at end of tether with him (21m) and other daughter often sticks him in the pushchair and takes him for a bit. nobody helps with the teenagers tho!! they don't seem to realise its all THEIR arguments that get me down!

is this because of what you posted last night? money?

[MrsMorgan]

Ah that's nice of them, but I totally get what you mean about them not realising that it is their arguments that get you down. My eldest is only 12 but does a fab impression of a 15yr old lol.

It's not the money really no, I am used to not having any. I just feel really overhwelmed and under supported at the moment. My mum is great and helps out when she can, but xp is useless and that won't change.

Even stupid things like people constantly asking me what they can get my dc for xmas is pissing me off. I mean is it that hard to think of something yourself ? I have to.

[shoptilidrop]

ah - i know how you feel.
Its rubbish. No advice at all, just posted my own thread asking for advice!

We are having a lazy day today to recharge. Am still in pjs. No housework and lots of tv today i think.

I think its a difficult time of year to be a lone parent for a lot of very different reasons.

[GypsyMoth]

the school play....everyone sat in two's...mum and dad or mum and gran....and me on my own!!

[MrsMorgan]

Yeah you are right shop, it is a crap tim eof year for lp.

ILT - Thats usually me too, but this year the dc's school decided that you could only have 2 tickets and that both had to be for the same performance, so I ended up siting with xp.

First xmas a single parent, I was still full of hope, that eventually xmas and life in general would be good again eventually. Four years on and the hope vanished ages ago.

[GypsyMoth]

i'm 5 years on and generally happy with my lot in life....i tend to focus on the things i can change such as decorating a room,than on things i can do nothing about..

and hey! you have your mum! mine died 2 years ago,and miss her more than i ever thought i would.

[MrsMorgan]

Yeah you are right, I should think about what I do have and what I don't.

[shoptilidrop]

ah - dont say that. This is , well i was going to say first christmas as a lone parent. But actually, its my third. ( we split up in the past, and last year i kicked him out 5 days before xmas).

Bugger - no, no hope. its shit and never going to get much better is it?

eats another biscuit to feel better

[shoptilidrop]

on the plus side, ive just had a letter come through from the CSA. He has to pay me more money that he has been, and now owes arrears.

Little bit of karma

and just enough to have brightened my day.

[spookycharlotte121]

i want to give up too..... dd is being really bad at night and wont sleep so by the time i manage to get to sleep (have insomnia) im getting an hour or so before she wakes... im on the verge of crakcing up. I called my mum and told her but she said i hvae no option but to hold it together which im not sure i can do.

havent gone into uni tofday so im going to be in trouble.

house is a filty pigsty and i need to sort the lounge out ready for the tree but i cant be bothered...... im going to be spending christmas morning alone with the dcs and im dreading it. theyre both under 3 so dont understand christmas so its going to be crap and exo has announced he is having them xms eve so all our little things of going to the nativity and then coming back to home made soup and a christmas movie wont be happening.
think i will have to get the wine out!