what can I do?

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Abusive ex partner has upset ds again .After returning from contact ds aged 5 was crying . Ex explains we fell out but have made up now.
When exp had left I asked ds further what had happened. He said exp had pushed him to ground by head .
Fuming I phone exp asking his side of the story and he said it was true. Ds was kicking him and angry with him and that was his response.
This isn't the first time this has happened. An incident similar happened about 6 months ago. Nothing could be done about it as there wasn't evidence enough to take it to court.
A contact arrangement was set up through solicitors and that was it.
What should I do? I'm so upset .

i wouldnt send my son back, if hes been abbusive to u in the past and has been to ur ds now atleast twiced i think hes had enough chances and defo isnt going to change
i would contact ur solicitor and make it clear whats happened and that he addmitted it to yourself and that your not preperd to let your son be in that situation again

hope all turns out well

would agree with leanne - you can't let your ex treat ds like that. i would report the incident to the solicitor and ask for alternatives for contact. your ex needs to learn he can't behave like that and get away with it. maybe contact centre would be better or some other supervised contact.

"we fell out but have made up now"

he is five year old child!!

i would say no contact unless supervised.

good grief....don't let this carry on!!

an agreement made via solicitors isn't legally binding anyway,so you won't be breaking any laws!!

Thanks. Im so gutted i've let this happen again. I really don't have to let kids out with him again do I ?

Ds is destroyed. He said" daddy used to upset you mummy now he upsets me," and " I want daddy dead "

Ex has texted saying he has messed up and and has taken things out on ds. He is going for the sympathy vote. Has said he will leave us all alone now . I wish!

How can I make things better for ds ? He's been doing so well and this is a major setback for him. He was unsettled the last 2 nights crying saying I hate daddy. Just don't know what to say to him.

In your shoes, I would talk to the nearest contact centre and set up appointments there. If ex wants to go to court to fight it, let him. You've shown that you're not blocking contact, just making sure it's safe. I'd also make sure the incident is on record with your solicitor.

Yes just looking up contact centres in area but there doesn't seem to be any close by. Would mean a mission on my part. I have 2 yr old twins aswell and no transport.

Solicitor has just closed my file this last week as after mediation things went back to him turning up as and when and I gave up . Tried to accept he was always goin to be a pain in the arse and just get on with things as best I could.

I think he really is worried I will take things further this time as the last incident is on record . He has been ringing me constantly since it happened telling me not to do anything silly .

Get in touch with your solicitor again and try go get things set up with a contact centre. Put it on record. He can't continue to do things like this to your DS.

Poor you, poor your DS....