Advice re contact order

[wirral]

Hi, I wonder if anyone can give me some advice?

My ex has our daughter in line with a contact order drawn up about 3 / 4 years ago. In addition he also gets extra contact when I work away for the week etc. He has recently emailed me to ask for more overnight stays. I am willing to meet him half way with his proposals but not the full extent. I am however worried that I will be setting a precedent and he will demand more and more contact time in months/ years to come. He is very controlling and does bully me by saying that a court will give him more contact.

Any advice?

Thanks

Is there any reason why he shouldn't have more contact? Certainly if a court order was made 3/4 years ago it would have been for an amount of time appropriate to your DD's age then, so perhaps it is a bit limited. (Obviously I don't know the age/level of contact so could easily be talking rubbish, I often do!)

Have you thought about mediation? If you feel bullied it might be easier to negotiate in a more controlled environment, IYSWIM.

The thing is, you can sort of see his point - you're happy for him to have extra overnights when it suits you (ie so you can go away to work) but not at other times. It might be better for the child if there is a more fixed pattern and then maybe you could fit work trips in around it, rather than the other way around?