I'll try to be brief...
DD is 15 months.
XP lives overseas, I moved DD back to the UK at the beginning of September.
XP visited last week for four days. It wasn't easy, but it wasn't terrible.
We have talked about her going to stay with him and I agree that this is fine.
However he suggested that he came to collect her in February and had her for two weeks.
I was a bit taken aback that it seemed very soon - but that is my problem.
The main worry I have is that he won't take time off work to see her - he says he can't.
She will effectively stay with his parents for two weeks and he will see her, lunchtimes, evenings and weekends.
PILs are lovely and I have no worry about her being looked after and so on.
My concerns are...
Two weeks aseems a long time for the first time of her going away from me when she will only be 18 months.
The idea is for XP to see her but he won't really get much time with her.
I thought to suggest that he came over here for a week and then took her there for a week. That way they can get used to each other somewhere familiar before going off on an adventure.
Does that sound reasonable?