The other party

[teanbiscuits]

Just wondering how other people have dealt with the introduction of new gf of cheating exH to children?
I really struggle with the idea that she a) played part in breaking up the family and b) my children with have someone in their lives who I know nothing about... all I know is they certainly don;t have the best moral compass in the world!!!

hane not been in that situation sweetheart but i really think that the best thign you can do, although it's hard is be the better person xx

i realise that may sound trite and i don't wish it to xx

Just feel grateful that she now has to deal with the lying cheating arse he has proven himself to be !
On a serious note, it gets better I hated it at first, but now I make sure I enjoy my time "off", and just feel immense sympathy for her, my gorgeous DD's are a constant reminder of what a complete arse he is, and it must be much harder her having to have them and play miss nice guy to MY children My eldest is 8 so well capable of telling me if she isnt!

My Dc have already been to the Zoo with OW, and stayed over at her house.And she bought my Dc xmas presents last year
This was before H left, when I was helping my Dsis after the birth of her DC3.

He told me about her this week, and plans on taking the DC there this weekend.

I hate the thought of it but, I will just deal with it as if it doesn't matter one jot

Your all right. It's just so difficult when you're left holding the babies (my youngest was 2 weeks!) and you then want to protect them so fiercely.
However, having read other threads, people are right, they will discover and make their own minds as they grow older. If she thinks a 7mth old and a 4yr old don't sleep through the night are going to make her happy families ... I'll enjoy my night off
And yeah, a man of that calibre is no catch for me... she's welcome to him

My dc have been spending every other weekend with their dad and the OW. It is very hard at times especially when they come back telling me how 'cool' she is and how much they like her. My eldest is 9 and not stupid so I think in his own head he knows something about what has happened already.

I struggled with the baby more then the eldest dc as they come back and talk. I find it hard that she is cuddling my dd when she was sleeping with her dad when she was 2 weeks old!

Like other posters have said, make the most of the time they are with them and have some you time. Think of her like a babysitter she is looking after the kids while your relaxing or going out and having fun with friends.

have to admit i was really mean when exp went off with ow (but i was 8 months pregnant and felt a tad hurt) have to say though exp is crap by himself so him and ow werent my ideal peopel to have ds anyway!
i know ive walked out of the ex mil's when they turned up so she wasnt near ds, think ds was prob 2 and a half beofre i let them have him together on their own!

it hurts, but I put on a brave face for the sake of the children.

I will always know that I am their mother and can never be replaced in their affections by a two bit married man hunting t*