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what are you doing for fathers day?

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nightowl · 10/06/2005 19:55

for those of us whose children dont see their daddies?

carer at nursery gently took me aside the other day and asked what i wanted them to do about a fathers day card. did i want dd to make one etc etc. i thought for a minute and said yes. so will i send it to the b***d or keep it in the box with all her other stuff in? tonight im well past caring, its been a crap day but im interested in what everyone else is doing. (im a nosey bugger).

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weesaidie · 10/06/2005 20:45


My dd does see her dad and in fact he will be with her on fathers day. When I reminded him of this he said he doesn't 'do' fathers day! His family have never done it.

I said it isn't for him it is for his dd. She is only 14 months now but am sure they will both appreciate it when she is older.

I don't know what I would do if she didn't have contact. Is she quite happy to make the card even though she doesn't see him?? I think I would keep it, unless you think he will be at all interested?

Loobie · 10/06/2005 20:59

My ex just happens to be up visiting the weekend of fathers day even though he should have been up 3 weeks previous to it,he couldnt get up for any the kids birthdays but manages up for fathers day funbny that hey!! well is he in for a shock cause we,me and my kids,are taking my dad out for the day ALL DAy so ex wont be seeing them or at the most fopr 1/2 hour before we go out,if he cant make the effort for the kids then he sure as hell aint getting praised for being a father.!!

weesaidie · 10/06/2005 21:07

Sounds fair Loobie.

Thing is my ex is a good dad (if a pain in the arse at times!) but he isn't particularly interested in it!

nightowl, I know u asked about those who don't see their dads but I wanted to give you an answer... hope that is ok!

expatinscotland · 10/06/2005 21:16

It's DD's 2nd bday on the 19th! So we're going to have a family meal with two cakes - one of her and one for Daddy and Grandpa. Along with pressies, balloons and the like. And hopefully BBQ, although that may have to be moved into the conservatory.

Bugsy2 · 13/06/2005 14:27

mine stay with their father every second weekend & even though he is a prime a**e in my opinion, I will get the children to scribble on a card & they can choose something for him in the £1 shop!!!
I know that if I don't encourage them to do something, it will be thrown back in my face during one of our many arguments.

debs26 · 13/06/2005 14:32

xp did nothing for me for mothers day so why should i do anything for him? he only really sees kids via his parents so they can get him a card if they think he deserves it.

dillydally · 13/06/2005 15:12

ex does nothing for mothers day, but i (magnanimous creature that I am) give him the card that DD makes at nursery.
He will get a present from me shortly after hell freezes over and satan ties on his ice skates.

debs26 · 13/06/2005 15:36

lol dillydally

tammybear · 13/06/2005 15:47

just getting him a card, thats all. im presuming he wants to come and see her, but again he hasnt said anything so far, so I probably wont here til saturday night like usual and I will have to yet again try and drill it in that I want a weeks notice of when he thinks he is able to come, not just to tell me and expect me to drop everything just so he can come. would have thought his last visit would have taught him better

prettyfly1 · 14/06/2005 21:02

what about men who dont bother to see their children. As my son gets older how do i explain fathers day to him??

honeypot01 · 14/06/2005 21:05

my ds is 3 and goes day nursery, i phoned the nursery and spoke to the manager and she said he could do a card for grandad which was really rice as he is very close to him

Caligula · 14/06/2005 21:23

Euugh, Prettyfly, this is a tough one. I never do anything for Father's Day because my children's father never contacts them except for Christmas and birthdays (and then it's only cards, never a phone call). I hate those father's day assemblies that everyone is supposed to go to. Last year at DS's school, they all painted pictures of their daddy "or another important man in their life". DS painted the au-pair. Mortifying.

jambo1707 · 15/06/2005 08:18


Why not let your little 1 give her card to her grandad if she rarely sees "daddy"

XmariaX · 15/06/2005 19:32

im stuck what to do for fathers day my partner has just left me and our 2 little ones recently to go be with someone else so i dont feel like he should get a fathers day card but at the end of the day hes still their father
so i really dont know

prettyfly1 · 15/06/2005 20:05

i think the grandad idea is cool - he already loves his. i just dread the fact that this is probably the time when he is most likely to ask about him!!

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