Have been on my own since last Christmas.Husband now gone and hardly bothers seeing kids. Two boys, aged 2 and 4. If I just have one of themwith me it seems like a breeze - I enjoy the one-one time and feel that I am doing a good job and am in control. Together however, most outings are fraught and I don't seem to be able to do anything quality with either of them at home. Younger boy is super active, have to get out with him but then I spend lot of time managing his behaviour and the elder one doesn't get the help/attention that he needs. The 2 yr old wreaks any painting/jigsaw/train-set making with the older one. Am spending quite a bit of time thinking I can't do this and that I am fundamentally unsuited to parenting and i end up wanting to cry pathetically in the loo. Bit late now.... Any ideas?? (apart from personality transplant)