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i love being single anyone with me.

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everythingistaken · 02/08/2009 14:53

Am i the only one on this??

1:don't have arguements about how to discipline the kids
2:don't have to answer to anyone
3:it's lovily when the kids go to bed and the house is quiet
4:don't have to share the telly
5:don't have arguements about anything
6:don't have to put the lid back on the toothpaste
7:dont have to wash his clothers
8:dont have to make a extra dinner
7:dont have to share my bed
8:dont have to put up with him saying he doesnt like my mates
9:can go out dont have to tell him where i have been
10: can paint the house ANY colour i like

i could go on forever but think i'll stop here, their are so many up sides to been single.

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SolidGoldBrass · 04/08/2009 00:41

Eh? I have a co-parent relationship with DS' dad. He is not my partner, we don't have sex or kiss each other, he doesn't live with us. He is DS' dad and we are on good amicable terms, but I am most definitely single (and so is he).

SOLOisMeredithGrey · 04/08/2009 00:49

SGB is single and happy you obviously didn't read her post.

SOLOisMeredithGrey · 04/08/2009 00:49

ooops! sorry SGB.

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everythingistaken · 04/08/2009 01:00

i applogise i read your post wrong

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everythingistaken · 04/08/2009 01:02

you must excuse me i'm not in the best of moods and half read your post thought you were been scarky. sorry

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everythingistaken · 04/08/2009 01:03

cant even spell now

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SolidGoldBrass · 04/08/2009 11:11

That's all right (proffers virtual large gin). Hope things get better soon.

MitchyInge · 04/08/2009 11:14

I love being single, I do wonder if this will change as I get older but I come from a long line of independent women

allgonebellyup · 04/08/2009 13:07

i too love being a single parent.

I think its cos i am a bit of a control freak around the house? i like wet towels to be hung up and not left on the floor, and the floor to be hoovered at least once a week!
Have been living on my own with the dc (9 and 5) for exactly 2yrs now, and i cant imagine living with a bloke again.

i have a boyfriend who is quite keen for us to live together at some point, he wants to be there for me and the dc, but i am v reluctant. He is wealthy too and we could prob afford a pretty decent sized house together, but i would rather stay in my semi with no man there every night!

Am i looooopy???

sincitylover · 04/08/2009 13:42

no I feel similar - to me a live in partner would feel like the the elephant in the room

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everythingistaken · 04/08/2009 14:18

no your not loopy at all, there is nothing worse than a man turnin everything upside down, not pulling his weight and not doing as he is told!

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kittycatty · 09/08/2009 14:26

Me too, i love being single.
But have alot of married friends who don't believe me why? I can do what i want when i want. My kid's are both teenager's so i don't have to plan my life around them. I love it

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everythingistaken · 11/08/2009 23:19

exactly kittycatty why is it that no one belives us?? their is more to life than a man, can't understand why people waste their time, i am so much happier without one. some people are strange

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secretskillrelationships · 12/08/2009 08:38

Ooh can I join in too! H left about 10 days ago.

I now live in a tidy, organised, calm and clean house which takes very little time to keep that way. Turned out that H was the main source of the mess and the least able to help sort it! Even the 5 year old does better! The children love the house this way and, now, willingly help at times (not always, obviously, they are children!).

Far from being the wreck I thought I would, I am enjoying my freedom.

Love having the bed to myself (even if I did have a child in with me last night!)

No snoring

My bedroom is tidy and organised and a real haven

Suddenly aware of all the other men in the world! But definitely a window shopper!

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everythingistaken · 12/08/2009 14:24

welcome to freedom!it is a wonderful thing. why do they make men anyway?? they are useless

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BertieBotts · 03/02/2010 11:27

Thought I would bump this thread as I read it at my turning point of deciding to leave and wished I could do all the things on the list in the OP - now I can, yippee!!

Can I add to the list:

  • I can sleep whatever weird hours I like, I don't have to go to bed when anyone else wants to and I can read in bed at 3am if I can't sleep (I did this the first night I was on my own and it was wonderful)
  • I can now stick to a predictable routine for DS and he is a changed baby, eating a lot more and sleeping better - he loves the routine and is also obsessed with tidying up (not like me, unfortunately!)
  • I can half do jobs, get distracted following DS up the stairs (or whatever) and come back to it later and finish it off, rather than coming back to it later and it being undone.
  • XP now spends more time with DS than he ever did before, and I get more "time off" than I ever did before, weirdly.
  • I can cook what I like and DS doesn't insist on having onion rings with everything or complain if a meal doesn't have meat in

I could go on... it's lovely. I don't think that all men are useless though. Just a few twunts around - I am just happy being single for a bit

IvanaPavlov · 03/02/2010 15:33

I feel inspired! I was really low about being single today but now feel a lot better. I just needed reminding of the positives.

Thank you!

northlondonmumma · 03/02/2010 21:45

Here here everythingistaken. I so feel the same way. good on you.

Sitting on the couch now watching Grays Anatomy and tapping away with my huge cup of tea and some left over birthday cake and room tidied up ...bliss

I would add that the food full of nice healthy stuff now so not tempted by all exp crappy crisps, jammy dodgers and stuff nightly and am nearly a stone lighter.

I was in a very bad relationship - and i a reminded of this whenever my children see their dad and i have to deal with him - and i was so unsupported but to me honest i is easier without a man around with little ones.

no i am not a man hater. i realise that there are great supportive men out there (my dad, my brother in law and my son't key worker fall in to that category).

right now dont want to give up my lovely life with my 2 little boys cos of all the benefits you said.

that said if i meet a lovely kind caring handsome and not completely skint bloke a bit down the line, that would be good too.

northlondonmumma · 03/02/2010 21:52

i am so happy single as i got my cleaner back - xp made me get rid of her by his relentless bullying saying i was lazy and should do it (depite fact i paid for eveything and he didnt help!)

i love this post as i can think of so so many more reasons but wont bore you with them (but i am laughing inside now thinking of all the shite on telly i no longer have to sit through like american chopper)

thesunshinesbrightly · 03/02/2010 22:43

Here here girl's, NLM - shite on the telly! Another great reason for being single.

BB that's great new's good on you girl.

II - everyone has a bad day but this is so positive and all true.

thesunshinesbrightly · 03/02/2010 22:45

I meant IP

happyhippy33 · 04/02/2010 23:12

I totally love being single with my 4yr old.
It's nice to have someone to go out with on ocasion and to scratch that itch but full time relationship---no thanks!!
I have had some awesome relationships but whilst I am raising my child I wanna stay single.
HH

mathanxiety · 04/02/2010 23:21

No more snoring YEEEEEEE-haaah.

Plus everything in the OP. Sad the little things mean so much after ex left (regret not getting myself single a lot sooner), but so nice to have them. And it was so much easier to lose weight once he was gone. What's that all about?

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