Have never been on this site before, just hoping someone may read this who has been through a similar experience.
I met my sons father whirlwind romance and seemed so genuine and gentle. He soon turned into a controlling person who didnt allow me to see my friends. The aggression started with the beer, throwing pints over me in local pub, beat me up and bit my forehead. He was aggressive with everyone when he had had a drink. I forgave him everytime ( i cant believe it now). I fell pregnant and at 7mths pregnant he became aggressive through beer and i asked him to leave, he stole my money from my account leaving me penniless. He wasnt with me during the birth, i rang him when i had my son and he visited with nothing for him. I tried again with him for 4wks when my son was 4wks old and he continued to be aggressive, so he finally left. Police have been involved more times than i can count, i have retracted statements for the domestic violence thinking he would have changed. We went to court last year for the theft of my money and he blatently lied to my face, i couldnt beleive it and was so shocked that he would lie in a court room. He never saw his son again til some 3mths after, this lasted 5 wks the last time being everytime he returned him he would threaten me and call me names, all my neighbours were aware of what he was doing. I have had counselling and came through it, i am a fulltime working mum with my own mortgage. He has given me £10 in 18mths. He hasnt seen his dad for 8mths and i received a solicitors letter wanting access ( he wouldnt go on the birth cert because i wouldnt give him his surname!). I have denied him access and want it to go through court, when he did see him he wouldnt tell me where he was living or taking my son, the courts can do his background checks (domestic violence unit told me that there had been 67 999 calls within 3 years from previous girlfriends)and doctors reports ( i forgot to tell you i found out also that he had been sectioned under the mental health act some 5 years ago twice). Knock at the door my ex girlfriend ( very nice from what i can tell) telling me he has changed and that she hasnt seen his nasty side.
I am in a new realtionship now and finally moving on, i dont want my son to hate me when hes older but i have no confidence in my ex of looking after my son. I am in dire straits wondering what to do. Anyone with similar eperiences or advice i would be so grateful.