Bit controversial - can we have honesty about an ulrika type situation.....

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Wondering about peoples opinions re children with different dads......

DO people consider Ulrika Johnson a total ho for having 4 kids by (i think) 4 dads...

I'm not suggesting I want 4 kids by 4 dads but I desperately would love a 3rd and wonder if thats a totally ridiculous and daft wanting seeing as my elder 2 already have 2 different dads :-( I'm not a total slapper honest! I just happened to have been married twice and 2nd marriage is hurtling toward the chaos of the first :-( we currently don't live together but H is talking about possible try again and I am not sure I want to but the lure of a 3rd baby (which he keeps dangling in front of me the shit!) is compelling.....

I couldn't go through the whole split thing again my kids have seen him come and go enough bless them (always his decision to go!) and as for the applying for benefits stress - don't get me started....!!!!

So - would you have 3 kids 3 dads? WOuld you consider me a total ho in the street if I did?

ANy success stories?

I think it depends where you live. People in the city seem to be much more understanding of that fact that different families come together at different times - here in the Suffolk countyside, it seems to be 1930. My new neighbours needed to know that my partner & I were married before welcoming us into the street! My friend (lives in a hamlet) is constantly judged on the fact that she is a single mum with two children by different Dads (nevermind that they both turned out to be violent c**ts & she was brave & marvellous to get herself out!). I think bollocks to everyone else, life's too short!

LOL at the dad's responses on here!! I'm not suggesting its pesky dads but more that its very annoying that dads can still (and yes I know its not ALL dads....) bugger off with no contact or suppoert for the child they helped create yet have the "power" (and it does feel like that) to prevent their ex from adopting a child for themselves later in life - what if I was happily married for the 2nd time and my DH was infertile? Should he be punished for the fact I was stupid enough to marry before?......

Thanks ladies for those who said sod em - must admit thats more my feeling too - although I've found a website where you can buy sperm for yourself thats been rigorously tested......sounds ideal to me!!!! Marvellous!!

The class issue is a good point - if I were a little more working class so to speak I'd have no worries at all - but I'm most definately middle class however much I try to behave otherwise and thats why I felt the need to ask the question in the first place sadly....people are terrible around here!! (West Countryside!)

`very annoying that dads can still (and yes I know its not ALL dads....) bugger off with no contact or suppoert for the child they helped create'.

I agree with this totally. Any parent that does that is the lowest of the low in my books. And on a personal, selfish level it is the example' I have thrown in my face by anyone with an agenda. Personally, I would have words with <strong>any</strong> father who didn't meet his responsibility to his children, the first ones being something along the lines of Don't you know some of us dream about being able to be fully involved in our kids' life'.

My comment was slightly tongue-in-cheek, too. ;)