I had my first solictiors appt today. They are apparently the best familt law firm in the area.
Im claiming legal aid.
We spoke about the divorce. Didnt want to know about contact agreements or child maintaince payments. Just said i had to muddle through it myself and if ex takes me to court, which is unlikely then it will be dealt with then.
He made a couple of comments which really upset/annoyed me, but im not sure if its just me, or if i should ask to see another solicitor at the practice.
He didnt check any of my documents, but did tell me off that i hadnt printed the legal aid calculator thing off.. which noone had told me i had to do.. it was my first appt.
He told me that as i hadnt been married very long ( 8 years) basically id get peanuts and i should be pleased as im only 30.
He asked if ex is likely to dispute anything, i said that yes, he probably would ( as thats the sort of person he was). He asked about the affair and i said, other than facebook ( which cant really be solid evidence) i couldnt proof it, informed him that ex and the girl he had affair with are both under investigation and have been suspended from amy cadets ( where they both volunteer) as i wrote a letter to the army cadets about it. The solicitor said that that was silly of me and i shouldnt have dobbed him in and that it will come back to bite me!!!! Right... so the affair he had wont come back to bite him then???
I asked about money.. ex promised money for the deposit of my new rented house. Last week he told me he wasnt going to give me any of it now as he hadnt meant it. The solicitor said there was nothing he could do about that.
I came out of there really upset. I am upset. it just feels that he gets to walk out of this scott free, and im left with nothing, plus all the responsibility. It feels like ive totally wasted 10 years for nothing. And it hurts so much.
Im probably just being emotional..... and im sorry if noone of this makes any sense.