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Your views please.

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SomeHelpRequired · 17/05/2009 17:33

I'm new to this site and was hoping for some advice.

I have been separated for xh for over 2 years and have a ds who is nearly 3. Ds suffers from multiple food intolerances to wheat and gluten and possibly milk. Ds is being seen at the local hospital to manage these.

There were multiple instances last year of mil coming to my house and shouting and yelling at me in front of ds. At one stage the police were involved.

Yesterday when ds was meant to be collected by his father for their weekend time together xh didnt turn up mil did. xh had already called me that morning angry and started shouting and swearing down the phone so i hung up on him. When mil arrived she started on at me and my family again in front of ds. My mum witnessed the whole thing and when ds tried to get to my mum mil turned nasty with him and told him NO.

Now also when ds is at his fathers house, xh doesn't give his the special food that the doctors has recommended that he has. Infact he feed him so much food he wasn't allowed one weekend that ds was violently sick and had a bad reaction to it.

So my question is this, because there is a history of aggressive behaviour not only from xh but his family also and the fact that ds comes back from xh house sick 99% of the time, would it be wrong to now change the contact arrangements to a contact centre?

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lottiejenkins · 17/05/2009 17:35

I would definetly change contact arrangements! If he isnt keeping to your sons diet and causing problems and sending you mil i would make a list to show your solicitor!

thesilverlining · 17/05/2009 19:08

definately - contact centre is the way to go from you have described. Get onto your solicitor

tessofthedurbervilles · 17/05/2009 20:23

What is their problem with you? why was he shouting at you on the phone?

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SomeHelpRequired · 17/05/2009 20:24

The only thing that worrys me is the reaction from doing this as at the moment ds sees his father one day per week and every second weekend from Sat morning to Sun evening.
But saying this I received a sick little boy back today. I measured his waist yesterday before he left me as he was well, his waist was 52cm tonight when he returned it was 64cm!

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SomeHelpRequired · 17/05/2009 20:26

I do not know what their problem with me is. The reason he was shouting at me yesterday on the phone as I had changed the drop off point due to the fact the last time he was meant to collect his son he was over an hour late and I got a parking ticket.
Just to note that the pick ups and drop offs are never near my house, usually the train station which is 5-10 mins away.

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