Proud of dd but it's made me feel like such a bad example/role model

[NervousNutty]

Dd1 (yr6) has been selected to attend a workshop at her new secondary school for children gifted and talented in English. She was put forward by her teacher.

I am very proud of her, she is a very bright girl and will go far, but it makes me feel like I am such a bad role model.

Dd2 already thinks it is ok for me to not be working and be on benefits. I have explained that it isn't.

Oh and before I hit post, this is just a general rant/moan and I am not asking to be jumped on by people on here who might want to drag up my previous failings and accuse me of asking for advice and not taking it, again.

Hi NN, I don't know you, but I just read that about your dd1. That's great to read that she's got the chance to do something so cool.

I also read your profile, you said you're in your 30s and have 3 children. In my opinion, it's not 'wrong' to be on benefits if you have 3 kids to support!

I don't know anything about your situation apart from what you said in your post and profile, but from that, I think you're fine.

why doers it make you feel bad?
am assuming you have good reasons not to be working right now.
and even if you don't, then it still doesn't have anything to do with your dd1 and you should still feel immensely proud.

I don't really have a good reason to not be working no. All of my children are of school age.

I think I just feel bad that there they are trying so very hard at school and doing really weell, and there is me failing at courses, jobs, life left right and centre.

I don't want them to lok at me and see my life as the easy option when they could be so much more.

I am very very proud of dd by the way, and my other 2 dc

hey well if you are failing at courses and jobs then that at least means you're trying!

someone I used to work with quit recently because she was financially better off on benefits than working. It's a bloody farce, but you know what? I suspect that I would have done the same in her position.

You aren't a bad role model if you're doing your best for your family. sometimes that means wortking, sometimes it doesn't.