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Help! Does anyone have a nice "no thanks" reply I can borrow for POF please?!

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saltcod · 27/04/2009 16:26

Hiya, have just joined plentyoffish & have had a couple of replies, neither of the guys do anything for me. But how do I send a nice "thanks but no thanks" reply. I don't want to ignore them & I appreciate that they've taken time to email, just not quite sure what to say back...

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ridingjoker · 27/04/2009 16:38

did they ask you any direct questions? or just a "hiya, like looks of you " type thing?

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saltcod · 27/04/2009 16:50

just a "hiya" type thing. One of them looked like he fired off a standard email to all & sundry as some stuff wasn't applicable to me!

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 27/04/2009 16:53

agree with RJ here
it depends on the question
if it's well thought out and considered then it's ok to give a 'thanks for your message,have had a look at your profile and tbh don't think we'd be a good match,good luck with your search'
it's also ok not to reply if you don't want to
aft.all it's cyberspace and you don't know them do you, and it does go with the territory so to speak

aseriouslyblondemoment · 27/04/2009 16:54

oh well the copy and paste brigade are big on the online sites
IGNORE!!

ridingjoker · 27/04/2009 16:59

ignore anything without direct question. if you want to be polite you can respong if there's a question. but dont ask one back and hopefully they wont send another

aseriouslyblondemoment · 27/04/2009 17:01

that's a very big hopefully lol

ridingjoker · 27/04/2009 17:02
Grin
hobbgoblin · 27/04/2009 17:03

I always ignored because anything more than that was seen as encouragement by those with brains-cum-penises.

aseriouslyblondemoment · 27/04/2009 17:04

not that RJ and i are wanting to put you off here saltcod
it's just from our erm experiences lol

aseriouslyblondemoment · 27/04/2009 17:05

ROFL

ridingjoker · 27/04/2009 17:07

oh experiences

aseriouslyblondemoment · 27/04/2009 17:10

er we are meant to be helping here not hindering lol
saltcod am expecting a full update on the 'fit' thread pronto

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saltcod · 27/04/2009 17:16

lol... I think I need to amend my "requirements" criteria, they both look like dodgy bouncers, real thugs! I'll have to think of something short & sweet to write back. I much prefer the look of the blokes on match.com but have found my ex on there so can't use it coz can't find a way of blocking him from seeing me, only of blocking him from emailing me

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 27/04/2009 17:20

oh god really?
that's hideous for you
my ex found me within 2hrs of rejoining FRD

Janos · 28/04/2009 18:03

Don't feel that you have to reply to anyone if you don't want to.

Good luck and have fun

thumbwitch · 28/04/2009 18:08

I had a couple of messages from people on netmums local, who I had to decline as well - the way I did it was to thank them for replying and find the one (or more) thing that just didn't work for me, point it out and say I would be happy to meet up for coffee but doubted it would be the right thing for me.

HTH. Good luck with finding someone nicer!

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