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MUMDONEGOOD · 21/04/2009 11:18

Am I being stupid? dd is nine and is going for a weekend away with school. I am scared and don't want her to go. Its about two hours drive from where we live, but we have never been apart except for school since she was born. I am terrified. She is quite cool and says she will miss me but wants to go. I am having nightmares. Is this normal ?

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allgonebellyup · 21/04/2009 13:31

Does she not go away to see her father or anything like that?
my kiddies go away every weekend so i am really used to it.

She will be fine, there is nothing for you to worry about.

Cut those apron strings!

piratecat · 21/04/2009 13:35

don't worry woman!!! She will have a great time. Don't let her see you are upset/scared. Be strong and proud of her. Then take time to enjoy some 'you' time.

blametheparents · 21/04/2009 13:50

It is tough. DS has stayed overnight at grandparents, but not anywhere else.
He went to Beaver camp last week and I was really worried. It is good for them to go, and tbh I had to persuade him a bit, but I felt it was worth it. It was lucky it was a sunny day when I dropped him off as that meant I could wear sunglasses and then he couldn't see the tears welling up!
Be strong, and you DD will have a great time. And def do not cry when you drop her off, you need to be positive.

gillybean2 · 21/04/2009 16:34

It's perfectly normal to be worried. I remember the first time my ds stayed over night at a friend's. Only ten minutes drive away and only one night but I was phoning to make sure he was ok, then again to make sure he had eaten, then did they go to bed ok, had they slept ok... He was absolutley fine and had a great time, I was the one that was worried about nothing. the wierdest part was waking up in the morning to a quiet house and not having to get up to make breakfast etc.

If your dd is going away with school at least you know that she will be with qualified staff members, people she knows, and in a safe environment. Plus you are only 2 hours away should you be needed (you won't be). They will phone you if they need too, so don't worry about that.

And it does get easier as they do it more, but that first time is very tough.

My ds is going away in the summer for a week just him and a friend on a DoIt4Real holiday. I am still a little worried as it's the first time he'll have been away that long, and 8 hours away from home should something happen! But he is so excited and really looking forward to it. He will be fine I know that, it's me that needs reassurance! It sounds like the same with you and your dd.

She will enjoy it, you'll maybe be more upset that she doesn't miss you like mad, but she's 9 now and growing up. It's an important step for you both.

Make sure you distract yourself doing something you wouldn't usually be able to do. Go out with friends, or go to the cinema, or have a friend over for a girlie night in. You'll be looking forward to the next trip away in no time.

Try and enjoy the break. Us single parents that don't have an ex for children to visit so rarely get a break and we do need one sometimes. You'll see that once you get used to it. So make the most of the few you do get and try to relax about it! Easier said than done I know

MUMDONEGOOD · 21/04/2009 18:04

Thanks for the support everyone. I know its time to cut the apron strings. DD is so independant I think it happend sooner than I imagined. Its going to be terribly quiet and lonely without her. Think its time I reassessed a bit of my life now. Oh dear, before I know it she will be spending more and more time away. gb2 you are right I will arrange things to do that I cant normally.Still not looking forward to how quiet its going to be without her constant chatter, dancing and singing.

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