Hi
I was wondering if anyone can share any words of wisdom please.
My ds is 20 months old. Ex buggared off to another town when I was 6.5 months pregnant (initially because he'd lost his driving license and moved in with his boss) he then sent text messages informing me he had an 'amazing new girlfriend', next he changed his mobile number.
A week after ds was born I text his parents to inform them, they thanked me for letting them know -claiming to have lost my number. Exes brother has seen ds a lot and exes parents sporadically. Lately they have been having DS on saturdays- although I dont really want them having him every saturday as I miss him.
Ex met DS once when he was 4 months old- despite me saying to his brother several times that he could meet him-apparently new girlfriend wouldn't allow -hmmm. When ex met him he was dragged along by parents and commented that I was fat and DS clothes were 'gay' (idiot)
Naturally I was livid.
I filed a claim with CSA shortly after DS birth and because ex was working for his mate as a self employed bricklayer earning lots but only a small percentage through books. I never received a penny as ex moved etc a few times and CSA were powerless.
Out of blue EX rang me yesterday. Asking after DS and saying he will start paying maintanence and asking to see DS. I said I didnt really wanting to given his behaviour. He then dropped a bombshell- him and the amazing girlfriend have an 9 month old DS. I was really hurt, asked him if he was at the birth and on certificate-yes to both. My DS got neither of these. He said that they have split up at the moment and are always roeing and getting back together. He sees the child a lot and gives the Girlfriend/ex girlfriend money for the DS. I am livid for my wonderful DS and I.
Thinking it through it makes sense exes parents ignored me and ds for 3 months last year which would have been when the baby was born. They even missed my son's birthday-not so much as a card or Happy Birthday txt :'-(
I just don't know what to do. I feel so hurt. A part of me feels sorry for their DS -She is a very selfish, nasty person from what I have been told about her. She used to tell ex not to visit his parents as she thought they were trying to reunite me and ex and our DS, she used to drink ridiculous amounts and sponge money off ex. Perfect when he had his old job but not so now there is no bricklaying work.
CSA have now discovered ex has a regular job and now he has driving license back has been threatened pay up or you WILL lose it or be imprisoned. Just after he received letter he rang me getting number from his mum's mobile.
Sorry for the essay amd feeling hurt and don't know where to turn. Should I say something to exes parents tomo? I am at a loss. Am I doing the right thing from saying ex can't see DS.