I am the mother of a lovely six year old boy that I had from a marriage to a rather nasty individual. We are now divorced and I live quite happily with my partner and our two daughters. My son has a very happy life with us and my partner is very good with my son and I feel very lucky to have found such a great father figure for him.
But.. his bloody father keeps coming in and out of his life. THere is no consistency with his contact. He doesn't pay maintenace he hasn't for over ten months.
Since I left his dad five years ago, he has cancelled contact on numerous occasions.
Tonight I have had exactly the same. He phones me up twenty mins. before he is due to pick him up and says oh i can't make it but i can pick him up tomorrow. my answer is well if you can't pick him up tonight don't bother.
I told my son he was poorly and couldn't come.
I am sick of my son being fucked around my someone who clearly cannot be bothered with him.
I have told my ex-husband that if he is not interested in being a father to my son then he should just leave us alone. He has told me that the reason he is like he is because I left him. He is punishing our son for something he has done.
Do you think I should let him collect ds tomorrow when ds is already feeling let down.
I don't say bad things about his dad, I always make excuses for him but I don't see why I should continue having to do this for ssomeone who quite clearly does not give a shit.
rant over. can someoen give me some advice please.